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4 Reasons Not To Get "Mommy Makeover" Plastic Surgery

4 Reasons Not To Get "Mommy Makeover" Plastic Surgery

4 Reasons Not To Get "Mommy Makeover" Plastic Surgery

With so much coverage of celebrity moms who shrink back to their svelte pre-pregnancy dimensions just weeks after giving birth, Circle of Moms members say they're feeling like expectations are becoming unreasonable for the rest of us. Sure, many of us wish we could have our pre-pregnancy bodies back, but is there now also an expectation from others that moms look like we've "never had kids," as Angela B. puts it? While she empathizes with the many women who go ahead and have "mommy makeover" plastic surgery after having children, "for the extra skin, boob lift, or a tummy tuck," she is one of many members who say they'd never do it themselves.

Members' reasons for shying away from surgery run the gamut, from the high cost, as Angela's comment underscores, to wanting to avoid unnecessary risk. Here, Circle of Moms members who would never go under the knife explain why. 


1. I Prefer to Look Natural

While their bodies changed after giving birth, many Circle of Moms members say they are fine with their new mommy selves – rippled tummies and all. Fiona prefers "to embrace the changes in my body over time and... natural approaches like exercise to moderately alter my appearance if I am not content." Liz. B. likes to joke about getting breast implants but says it ends there: "I don't think I would...I don't even care for makeup because it [can] make women look fake."


These moms believe that getting plastic surgery would be a betrayal of their values. As Fiona explains, "I don't look down on [women who've had plastic surgery], but I do think they must just have different priorities and different body image ideals than me."

2. I Want to Model Self-Acceptance for My Daughter

Many members say that getting plastic surgery to get rid of natural changes communicates the wrong messages to their children. Amie T., who has three daughters, thinks it would be near impossible for them to develop positive body images if she went in for a mommy makeover.

Others say that kids whose moms get plastic surgery learn that it's okay to cave in to peer pressure. Feen N., for one, wishes "society would stop putting so much pressure on mothers to look like they did at 18. For most of us, it's not going to happen. I swear, the peer pressure on new mothers is just as intense as on teenagers. When we should be focusing on our new babies and finding our feet as mothers, we are being bombarded with these idiotic expectations to lose nine months worth of weight in a matter of weeks." Angela B echos this perspective: "At first I felt really inadequate when [friends] looked so great after two or three kids. But I resent the peer pressure."


3. I'd Rather Spend the Money Elsewhere

Cost is also a major factor in dissuading many moms from seeking cosmetic surgery. Feen N. "certainly wouldn't pay for cosmetic procedures," and Becky F. asserts that "it's a lot of money to spend on what is essentially just vanity." Angela B. thinks of it in terms of priorities: she'd really rather use that cash to "go on a real nice vacation, [or] put it towards a retirement home or a new car."

4. I'm Not Vain Enough to Justify the Risk

Finally, many Circle of Moms members say they want to avoid surgery at all costs. Birth is painful enough! "Personally, I would never in a million years have plastic surgery that is purely a cosmetic enhancement (breast implants, liposuction, or a face lift)," says Erin H. "For me, the risk, pain and time off for recuperation would just not be worth it."

Becky F., who is tempted by the idea of liposuction or a tummy tuck to achieve "a nice, flat tummy, which I haven't had since I was a kid," doubts it would actually make her feel better about herself. And Angela B. is also skeptical: "Just for vanity I can't justify...risking my life."

Laurelai H. seems to sum it up best: "It's just unnecessary."

On The RoundUp next week: Mom Confessions: "I Had Plastic Surgery to Get My Body Back"
If cost was not an issue, would you have a mommy makeover?

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Sheila15432757 Sheila15432757 3 years
Awww WTH... We as mothers already gave away our whole entire lives for our beautiful little guys.. What the point in ever wearing make up or even showering for that matter... Because you know your gonna have poop or some other substance on you all day long afterwards.... I think we should give them our beauty and our whole entire bodies too... Even after they vacate the womb... No point in feeling sexy or wanting our bodies to look somewhat normal again... For our own pleasure and happiness... We as Mothers its not about us anyway..... Omg Please please please tell me how can we be productive Mothers if we hate ourselves and feel we dont Matter.... This article is absurd to me.... How could anyone not just women feel as if there appearance does not matter... We are taught by magazines and TVs and hopefully by watching our Mothers and listening to them that we need to be clean and presentable when we leave our homes..... How is that a form of being selfish because we as women wanna look good and feel Good, & just may be the hottest Mom at your teenage sons open house.. Im sorry but I am as happy as a speckled puppy when Men break their necks to take a look at me.... and I am 36 yrs old and their 25 yrs... Not that I would act on it but its amusing and a self esteem boost for sure... And the best part is watching your husband worry because he knew what he had before the surgery and now its 110% Hotter.... He gives you attention again because duh he sees 25 yr olds looking at you.... Im the happiest I have ever been with my Mommy Makeover.... I dont regret it and and never will... I am overjoyed and loving life.... I dont understand how any woman would regret it.... Its so worth the money, & if you pick a board certified doctor then the risk of dying goes way down.... I hope women do listen to what I had to say.... Have a nice day..... 5 weeks out today...
TracyStuart TracyStuart 5 years
I gained a LOT of weight with each of my kids. I used pregnancy as a free license to eat and do whatever I want (i.e. NOTHING). As much as I want to lose all this weight (my son is 15 and my daughter is 2), I would not go under the knife. My most important reason would be that I want to remain a MOM in my physical appearance. Let me explain, because I know we all look completely different from each other... I don't want to lose my stretch marks, my saggy boobs, etc... I earned them in the process of giving my children life. Even though I can be quite insecure about it at times, I remind myself WHY I have this body. My body sacrificed for them. I do watch what I eat and exercise (sometimes) and try to lose extra weight. However, I can't imagine ever WANTING to look like I was 15 again in my body appearances (had my son at 17, so never really had an adult body not wracked by childbirth anyway). I feel the same about wrinkles and grey hair. I had a Mary Kay chicky telling me how I want to stave off wrinkles (when I was 19) and keep young looking skin. I laughed at her and told her that I was young and dumb and people treat me like it. I can only hope to gain wisdom as I age and, therefore, why would I still want to look young and dumb so that people would still treat me like I was an inexperienced idiot? I want to earn every single wrinkle and look my age. I view wrinkles and grey hair as my badge of survival and wisdom. Please don't rob me of it by trying to make me WANT to be a little girl forever! I can gracefully accept womanhood, thank you very much. :)
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