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The Art of Naming Baby

Choosing a moniker for your mini me can turn into a big mess if you don't abide by the unwritten rules. A whopping 42 percent of lilsugar readers said they have fallen victim to baby namenapping. Parents are free to pick any name for their offspring, but if you don't want to offend anyone, you might try following these guidelines. To check out the etiquette,


  • If a family member has long coveted a certain name, don't even entertain the idea of using it.
  • If a family member plans on honoring a deceased relative by making their future baby a namesake, choose another one.
  • If juniors run in the fam and you want to name your son after your single brother, ask him if he minds before bestowing the honor.
  • If a relative gave their child a moniker you admire, ask permission to duplicate the name.
  • If calling names is common practice in your circle of friends, choose one for a girl and another for a boy; it isn't fair if anyone has dibs on a dozen.
  • If a person cherishes a name for sentimental reasons, respect that and select another.

Is there any practice you preach?

Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 9 years
I'm still going to name my daughter Sophia when I have her. I don't care that my cousin's middle name is Sophia. She is 10 months. My cousin won't care and neither will her little girl. If my other cousin cares that I "took" the name Sophia that is her problem. She didn't want a baby, got pregnant accidentally, complained about it, dropped out of school, and is happy, but still complains about what she could have done. I want a baby and my baby shall not be a result of an accident with someone I wanted to get away from. I'm not going to change my future child's name to fit her selfish needs.
LadyLiLa83 LadyLiLa83 9 years
I wouldn't ask someone if I could use their name...I'd just use it. So what if two kids have the same name? It happens everywhere now (my daughter's day care has 3 Madisons, 2 Aidens *shudder* and 3 Makaylas *big shudder*).
MissSushi MissSushi 9 years
I had chosen the middle name Rose for my daughter, YEARS before we had her. I wasnt one of those that had 50 million names picked out, i just absolutely wanted the middle name to be Rose. It was in dedication to my mother, whos favorite name is rose. I told my best friend of over 5 years, and not a year later she got pregnant and had a daughter. She gave her the middle name Rose! I was REALLY angry, the name was sentimental to me and she knew beforehand. As best friends do, we often dished about the future and our kids names, etc. She never asked me or referred to it. When I got pregnant with my daughter last march, when we were talking about names, I started to say that I had wanted to name her Kairi Rose.., and without letting me finish, she exclaimed, Oh it would be so neat if your daughter shared Fyora's (her daughter) middle name! Ugh! I was instantly irritated and didnt choose the name. We will probably be friends for years and years to come, and I know myself enough to know that if i chose Rose and had to listen to her for the next 10 years go on about how great she thinks it is that I "shared" her daughters name, Id absolutely blow up one day. I ended up going with Kairi Ann. Ann is my mother's, mother in laws, and my middle name.
kmckay kmckay 9 years
i have had 2 names picked out since i was 18. now, 10 years later the only person who has heard them is my husband. i really love the names (obviously) and would be crushed if someone else used them. thats why i am keeping my mouth closed until the little one makes his/her debut!
jessy777 jessy777 9 years
I know what I would like to name my children but I don't talk about it. I am nowhere near that phase. When my little sister was born my mother wanted to name her Jacquelynne to continue the J tradition. It would have been James, Jessy & Jack. My aunt threw a fit because she wanted to name her future daughter (she had 2 sons) that and in order to end a bitter fight my mother chosen another name. My little sister is Abigayle and my aunt never had another child.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
haha that's what i guessed. how random! thanks!
a-nonny-mouse a-nonny-mouse 9 years
dh = dear husband; dd = dear daughter (and so forth)
skigurl skigurl 9 years
sweet n low, what the heck does DH and DD stand for? i figured it out based on context, but i'm obviously out of the loop on this! haha! and by the way, i feel badly for you on both of those accounts!
ElleJay ElleJay 9 years
i agree bessa
bessa bessa 9 years
I tend to think this is all silly and people should name their children a name they like. It's hard for two people to agree on a name for their child for the rest of his/her life! I don't think you can have "dibs" on a name. Especially before you're married - or until you're pregnant. That said, I would try to be respectful of someone's family situation if the name wasn't super-important to me. E.g. not naming after a SIL's dead mother or something. Or not using a Jr. name without asking. I considered naming our boy the same middle name as my nephew's and I asked my SIL what she thought. She said she thought it would be great. That said, it wasn't a super important issue for me - I didn't have to have that name. But sometimes, there's truly only one name you and your spouse both love for your child.
SweetnLow SweetnLow 9 years
I agree, skigurl. My DH is 4th in a line of Jameses. Before we even got pregnant with our first (though we were dating and engaged) my SIL took it upon herself to name her 3rd boy James. She didn't even ask my husband if he had wanted to use it!! If we have a boy, I just can't bring myself to use James with him- when one of his cousins also has the name. At the same time, the name we chose for our DD is the same as the grandmother of my BFF (and which, of course, she wants to use herself.) I wish I had been told beforehand.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
it's weird to steal a name, but it's also weird to name someone the same thing as someone close to them...sorry people, but you'd have to find a new name if someone beat you to the punch!
snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 9 years
I am not too strict about this. If someone took 'my name' i would still use it, and if people wanted to know why I would tell them the truth. So I wouldnt care if someone took our name...
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 9 years
I've had the name Sophia since I was 7, but I guess not everyone knew or took it seriously. I'm still going to name my daughter Sophia even though my cousin's middle name is Sophia and my other cousin's name is Sophia. Oh well. I had the name first.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
two years after my sister was born, my aunt gave my cousin the same middle name as my mom had given my mom found it really weird that she did it and didn't ask or even bring it up and discuss how ideal she thought the name my cousin and sister are best friends, so they're happy about it, but it's still a weird spot for my parents...i just don't get why you wouldn't pick a different name? i also know a family who named their son the same first name as his cousin, about 4 years after the first boy was born. so now these two cousins have the same first name. how weird. i just don't get why you would do that.
nv27 nv27 9 years
Its simple, just be respectful.
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