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Is Asking How Much Friends Gained During Pregnancy Rude?

This post comes from our group The Pregnancy Posse from member Galonabudget.

I'm eight weeks pregnant and slowly learning what other moms and moms-to-be consider fair game in terms of sharing and insight. My best friend has two young children and has been my go-to call throughout my planning for pregnancy and questions about the day-to-day of carrying a baby, but it's exciting to ask other friends and family and hear their suggestions as well. Because pregnancy is so new to me I'm thrilled to share all the gory details, including how much I've gained thus far (not much, obviously), but my best friend — and others — have awkwardly avoided my questions about their pregnancy weight gain. Is it rude for me to ask or compare how much weight they had gained at the same stage?

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jenni5 jenni5 7 years
I think it's fine if your close with them. I always hated when everyone asked me how much weight I was gaining while pregnant but after it was all over I had no problem talking about it. By 8 weeks I had gained barely anything, maybe a pound or two in my boobs!
mstrauss mstrauss 7 years
I think it's fine if you are close enough with someone. I especially wouldn't asked someone if you can tell that they gained alot!
MissSushi MissSushi 7 years
Yeah, I'm going to have to say its rude, and really none of your business. Think about it this way - you admit that its something that you're proud of basically only because you haven't gained much - and that the question causes other people to have to awkwardly dodge it. Big indications you shouldn't be asking.
kia kia 7 years
I am in my first pregnancy and have not asked. I have no idea if it is rude or not but weight and the way a woman's body changes with pregnancy is not an easy thing for women to deal with. I have simply stayed away from this question and relied on benchmarks my midwife and I have set up. I am also part of some online groups where others from my birth month cohort do weekly weigh-ins to gauge where everyone is at. Our bodies are also different so some women are already gaining, some are losing at your stage.
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