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Back in Diapers? How to Handle Potty Training Setbacks

Back in Diapers? How to Handle Potty Training Setbacks

What happened!? Your little one had been accident-free for over a month, and now can’t seem to make it to the toilet in time. In addition to consulting your pediatrician to rule out a medical cause, try these 5 tips from moms for getting back in the potty training saddle.

1. First, Relax

Although potty training regression is a frustrating experience, it’s also very common and normal. If your child has only been potty trained a short while (e.g., a few months), try not to get frustrated. As Jenna B. advises: “I wouldn't stress out. These things can take time and require patience and gentle persistence…Don't worry.”

2. Give Your Child Control

As Alicia E. explains, feeling a sense of control is very important to children in the 2-3 age range: “At that age, potty-training is one of the few things they can control in their lives. No matter what you do, you cannot MAKE your daughter use the potty and she knows it. All you can really do is help her to WANT to use the potty."


3. Re-Motivating

How do you make your child want to use the toilet? Many moms recommend first re-trying the strategies that initially worked (or slightly modifying them so that there are more challenging goals). As Deborah D. shares: “I restarted the potty chart and she was fine until it was filled again. Now I use a potty chart where she gets a sticker only if she's been dry all day.”

4. Constant Reminders

Children often regress with their potty training because they've focused on learning a new skill. As a result, you may need to offer constant, gentle reminders about using the toilet. As Deborah D. relays: "I remind her often to go to the toilet, make sure she goes before we leave the house."

5. Acknowledging Underlying Emotional Causes

Children often regress in potty training when major changes occur in their routines. As Jennifer H. explains: “It could be a psychological issue if something has drastically changed in his life (ex: school, new baby, new house).” According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, the following are all common causes of potty training regression:

  • Change in your child's routine—for example, a new sitter, or starting a childcare or preschool program
  • A new pregnancy or the birth of a new sibling
  • A major illness (the child's or a family member's)
  • A recent death in the family
  • Marital conflict or divorce
  • An upcoming or recent move to a new house

In these cases, the AAP recommends talking with your child about the problem to help her express what's upsetting her, sympathizing with her, doing what you can to fix the problem, and offering positive encouragement — so that she can succeed.

Did your child regress in potty training? If so, what worked the second time around?

CoMMember13631168226529 CoMMember13631168226529 6 years
My son started potty training just before we were to leave on vacation. Needless to say, it didn't last. I was pregnant with my second child so I let him control the situation. Two weeks after his sister was born he decided diapers were for babies and he wasn't a baby anymore. only one in diapers after that!
AmyJohnson12594 AmyJohnson12594 6 years
My daughter did great and was dry all day for a good 8 months then got a kidney infection which was pretty nasty and she regressed after this. She is now back on course and decided on her own to go to the potty again which is great. We just have to tackle clean as well as dry which she's showed little interest in even with major praise if she does it or bribery to do it but she's not quite 3.5 yet so we're not worrying too much. If we pressure her she'll never do it. It'll become a battle!
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