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Is Birth More About the Mother or Baby?

A friend recently told me she was shocked that I had allowed my sisters and sister-in-law into the delivery room when I had my kids. I told her I don't think of birth as a production centered around me and my husband, but rather the baby. Each of my children was lucky enough to be welcomed into the world with their godmother present. While some ladies primp for the occasion, bring a picture to focus on or stock up on their favorite snacks for the hospital stay, I'm usually too preoccupied watching the monitors and coping with contractions. Who do you think the experience is about?
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starbucks2 starbucks2 7 years
It is about the mother first, because she needs to be as comfortable as possible in this extreme situation to help the little one come into the world. No baby will care if grandma is present. Come on, people. And what the hell is wrong with bringing your laptop? Did you really think 'No, this is selfish, I should really just sit it out?' I luckily had a quick delivery, so no time for boredom. I stayed in the hospital for 3 days after though and I really wish I had a book with me. I really think mothers need to stop putting each other down. There were only my husband and the midwife with us during delivery which was the way I wanted it. If you'd rather have a thousand people there, go for it. Whatever helps you get is good for your baby too!
lauraxtc lauraxtc 7 years
both I think. we are taking the pain and they are being freed! lol.
MissSushi MissSushi 7 years
I didn't bring anything with me to the hospital last time, other then my packed bag and the babys things, and I wish I had. I had hours with no tv, no book, nothing to do but sit there. My water broke before the hospital and they refused to let me out of bed. I won't be forced to lie on my back this time, just not dealing with that crap, but i will be bringing quite a few things. My laptop first and foremost, a book or two, movies for my husband to watch, and snacks and food so i don't starve like last time. You generally don't walk into the hospital and pop out a kid 5 minutes after registering. Normally there are hours and hours and hours with nothing to fill the time. I want distractions and entertainment this time around. It's pre planning anyway, its not like you're organizing all this crap to take while you're mid contractions. I think its about both, and if you have family willing attention should be for both. The baby is a wonderful new life, and you just spent hours laboring to bring it into the world.
Niami Niami 7 years
I say bring in whomever you want and whatever you want to make yourself comfortable. I would have loved to have been allowed to at least turn on the TV during my 22 hours of labor. Talk about boredom. Transition didn't come until a few hours before my son was born, so before that I could have used something to distract me. I had pre-eclampsia, so they decided no TV and laying on my left side in the dark was the best thing for me and the baby. I couldn't even get ice chips. grr. My mom and mother in law were in the room with me when my son was born. My now ex-husband was on his way to Cuba in the Navy, so I asked the grandmothers to witness the birth of their first grandchild. When there are over 20 other people in the room assisting with the delivery, having a couple family members hanging around isn't a big deal.
HLHArts HLHArts 7 years
The birth is about both. And as for laptops? I brought mine because there were several HOURS after my epidural when I was just sitting there. I was glad to have it as a way to update my friends and family on how things were going.
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