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Mommy Dearest: Second-Guessing Childcare Choice

Mommy Dearest,

I am about to return to work following the birth of my first child and am investigating my childcare options. After interviewing some nannies and visiting daycare centers both home- and program-based, I thought I had settled on a daycare center with low student to teacher ratio, clean rooms and a great daily schedule. After sharing my plans with family and friends, they started presenting me with horror stories about day care — children who are more aggressive, constant ear infections, lack of attention, etc. Should I just ignore my friends or should I reconsider my decision?

– Clueless About Childcare

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Clueless About Childcare,

Childcare decisions are never easy and there are vast generalizations that can be made about any option you choose. Your decision must be made based on your personal situation — financially and otherwise — and the quality of the care you believe your child will receive. There are good and bad nannies and good and bad day cares. If you feel that you have done the research and are comfortable with the choice you made, stick with it. Don't let the naysayers convince you otherwise.

– Mommy Dearest

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lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
The only child you have to worry about is yours, and you know your child better than anyone else. Sounds like you've done your research. It will probably be fine:). Some kids prefer day care to a nanny because of the social opportunities.
bchicgrl bchicgrl 7 years
I def agree and think you should just listen to your own gut about this one. If the daycare you chose and is a great one in your eyes then that's all that matters. Most daycare centers will let you visit your child throughout the day and some even have cameras that you can tap into from your computer at the office. I know when we have kids I'm going to facing this decision, right now my decision would be part time daycare. I know it's very good to have a kid in daycare because it helps with their development and socialization skills. I worked in a daycare for many yrs (infant room specifically) and saw first hand just how wonderful it was for the kids. I look at my niece who stays home with mom and I feel bad for her because she always seems bored with no other kids to play with. I know when daycare becomes an actual decision I will be extremely picky as any parent should be but I like to think I'll be extra especially since I know what it's like to work on the other side at a daycare center just as I'm sure any would feel if they have worked with kids before becoming a parent.
Chouette4u Chouette4u 7 years
Next time your friends start talking about the dangers of daycare, talk about some story you heard about a nanny getting caught hitting a baby on a nanny cam or stealing the parents' jewelry or money from the house. There's no perfect choice!
Smacks83 Smacks83 7 years
Thx for the clear up (guess I read that wrong, lol).
masonsmama masonsmama 7 years
I think it's like birth stories to some extent - there are a lot of people who love to rehash their horror stories and you hear so many more of those than of the great stories. I have my 18 month old at a wonderful home daycare where it really is like a family environment. Yes, he probably is exposed to more germs than if we had a nanny, but the trade off is that he's also around a variety of children to play with and learn from. For us, it works out great, and I think with enough research and checking, everyone can hopefully find a solution that works for them, too.
FrankiLee FrankiLee 7 years
Smacks, I don't think she meant that being in daycare makes children more aggressive, I think it's the potential of there being aggressive kids in the daycare she chooses. Choosing daycare is scary. I am in the same position right now. All you can really do is do your research and check out as many daycares as possible, and then you will be comfortable with your decision. You will be able to notice any changes in your child as he/she goes over a period of time. If anything suspicious pops up, then you can look into it, and possibly find somewhere else to go if need be. Don't let people's horror stories scare you!
Smacks83 Smacks83 7 years
not trying to sound snarky, but I don't understand how being in daycare makes kids more aggressive?
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