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The Best Chores For Tweens

Despite tweens' resistance to chores, Circle of Moms members say that there are ways to get them to pitch in around the house. Whether you're hoping to teach yours the value of work or just need some help with the cleaning or laundry, here are some great suggestions on age-appropriate chores for 9- to 12-year-olds. 

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1. Wash, Fold, Sort, and Put Away the Laundry

Inspired by childhood memories of doing her own laundry, Karen L. says she taught both her kids to start doing their own laundry when they turned 12. "I got tired of them complaining that they needed something special to wear and I wasn't doing laundry that day," she says. "So I had them begin to do their own clothes and the towels from their bathroom. That left me with just mine and hubby's and our towels and bedding. If they messed it up, it wasn't mine."

Mel H. agrees that "kids can help with washing" and says that she had her own laundry basket from the age of 12 on. "My 10-year-old will move the laundry from the washer to the dryer and then to the basket, where I typically fold it."


2. Set the Table and Do the Dishes

Dinner is a nightly event and a good time to teach your tween about having regular chores, says Cindy B. "My daughter is expected to empty the dishwasher and set the table."

3. Keep a Clean Room

Being responsible for his or her own room also is an age-appropriate chore for a tween, says Tami R., whose 10-year-old daughter is responsible for cleaning her own room daily.

4. Walk and Feed the Dog

Taking care of the family pet helps teach tweens about responsibility, suggests Beverly A. "My 9-year-old is feeding and cleaning up after the dogs."

5. Take Out the Garbage

Establishing a set of weekly chores, such as taking out the garbage, helps tweens get in the habit of lending a hand around the house, says Tesha S. "My 13-year-old takes out the garbage and does the dishes on the other days."

6. Light Cooking

Many Circle of Moms members agree that part of being a family member is helping out with the daily tasks. Lani S.'s daughter is learning to cook by helping her mom with meal preparation. Not only is it a big help to Lani, but also, "it teaches [her daughter] to be more independent."

7. Helping With the Little Tasks

There are many little tasks that need to be done around the house daily and that are good ways to get tweens to start helping out, suggests Karen A. "Eleven-year-olds should be doing chores, even if they are lighter chores on school nights," she says. She suggests listing daily tasks for your son or daughter, such as emptying the bathroom garbage, straightening up the living room, or putting away his or her own laundry.

8. Light Housekeeping

Daily vacuuming of the living room and dining room and daily straightening of the bathrooms are good routine chores for tweens, says Carlena J. "We have our son do the dinner dishes, clear the table, stack the dirty dishes, and put away the clean ones if needed," she says. Dusting also is a good light chore to start teaching tweens how to help around the house, advises Jaclyn H. "It is most definitely reasonable," she adds. "You can spray for them and let them wipe the tables, and eventually they can spray themselves with supervision."

9. Lawn, Raking, and Yard Work

Yard work should be on the list of chores that a tween can do for the household, says Cory B., adding, "It's not unreasonable at all to have expectations for tweens regarding chores and daily upkeep of the house."

Creating a Chore Chart

One of the best ways to keep a tween on track doing his or her chores is to create a system for them, says Cindy B., the mother of a 12-year-old. Andrea J. agrees. The weekly list she keeps for her tween includes taking out the garbage, recycling, and on Saturdays changing the beds and laundering the sheets.

Another benefit to a weekly chart is that it can help motivate your tween to complete her tasks. As Cindy B. explains, "Keep a chart of the daily things she is expected to do, then at the end of the week, if they are done, reward her with money or whatever. If they are not done, she gets nothing."

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lisamarshall33611 lisamarshall33611 4 years
chores are great for tweens, iv'e tried weekly allowances for my 11 yr old & 7 yr old, it works with the 7 yr old she keeps her room spotless and also helps with light chores she saved enough money to buy a bike, a 19" tv & a 50$ lego set, im so proud of her but on the other hand my 11 yr old i have to remind her daily & she still doesnt care i've tried everything, when she does do her chores & gets allowance she spends her $ on candy! I don't know what to do about this! she's driving me bonkers
JenniferBlum JenniferBlum 6 years
I started years ago, and some think I am mean but I have a 9 and 10 year old and they scoop cat litter, take out the trash, empty dehumidifier, set table, sweep, laundry, feed cats, vacuum... they do not get rewarded extrinsically. we started when they were around 3 or 4 telling them that as members of this family you are expected to chip in. That has helped the most.
ChristyWarden ChristyWarden 6 years
Great ideas, thanks for posting.
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