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City Living or Suburban Living?

City to the Suburbs: Did Having Kids Cause You to Move?

There's no denying the benefits of city living when you are young and childless. From the culture and the nightlife to the fabulous restaurants, there's endless stimulation and the convenience of having everything at your fingertips. Major metropolitan areas are a playground for their residents. Once couples begin to expand their families, other concerns — namely space, schools and expenses — tend to creep into the minds of mom and pop. We recently wrote about the cutthroat process of preschool education and the costs are only expected to rise in the coming years.

Having grown up in San Francisco, my husband and I have sacrificed square footage for the ability to have mostly everything we need within walking distance, to dine in a variety of ethnic cuisines and give our two (soon to be three) children the benefits of an urban landscape. Friends have opted for the plush lawns, spacious bonus rooms and relative safety of the suburbs once their families outgrew their city walls. Did having children incite a move for your family?

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PinkUnicorn PinkUnicorn 8 years
The city I live in has a fairly craptastic downtown (seriously, one day we went to a movie at 4:00 pm and had dinner reservations for 7:30, so we had about half an hour to kill in between and even the Starbucks was closed!!!!). I lived there for about three years so I could walk to work, but as soon as I quit that job I moved out to the suburbs and am waaaaay happier. BUT I'm sure if I lived in a city that didn't suck so bad that I would have had a hard time leaving downtown!
meandtheo meandtheo 8 years
we moved from san francisco to the peninsula right before my daughter was born. i desperately wanted to stay in the city but my husbands job is on the peninsula so we decided to look for a place to buy in both places. in the end i found a house (not a condo) that i loved on the peninsula with a huge backyard, right near a park and within walking distance to the downtown area...i couldn't pass it up. i miss the city but we are close enough that we go often and i still get to enjoy it on a weekly basis.
kty kty 8 years
i used to live in the city before having a kid(paris,chicago)but now i live in a suburb and i like the feel of it even though i miss living in the city.
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 8 years
I live in the City, very beautiful and very accommodating to my kids, but I have always lived in the city, I couldn't imagine living country.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 8 years
Our location is perfect actually, I dunno if it's considered 'city' or 'suburb.' It does have a suburbia feel to it (family-oriented), but it's only 10 minutes drive to the downtown area where the culture/nightlife, etc. And it's only 5 minutes (top) drive to work. And shopping is only 1-2 minute drive away. So it's a very convenient place to live. We've been living there before we have our son too and if we do move to a bigger place, we want it to be in the same area if possible.
runningesq runningesq 8 years
We will probably move out of Baltimore when our kids are school age --- the school system here is awful (and dangerous) and we are surrounded by counties with top notch school systems and parks/ rec departments. I always joke that I don't want to live in suburban hell but I think it will be best for the famil
PensaGrey PensaGrey 8 years
I have always lived in the suburbs or the country so I didn't have to worry about that. I can tell you one thing though...having kids will prevent moving, especially when they don't want to leave their friends :OY:
macgirl macgirl 8 years
Never had to think about any of this as I have been in beach communities most of my life. It's easy to not miss what you never knew.
Chouette4u Chouette4u 8 years
We moved from San Francisco to a suburb on the peninsula while I was pregnant. To me, having a baby or kid in the city just seemed so inconvenient. And I guess I don't see the cultural benefit to an urban landscape. We still live in an area with plenty of ethnic restaurants and diverse people.
SlingLady SlingLady 8 years
Interesting post! We had already moved from a big city (NYC) to a small town (Napa) when we had kids. But no matter how much I miss New York (and I do a lot), it'd be hard to move back and give up what we have - space, money, time.
bluepuppybites bluepuppybites 8 years
The only reason I still love to live in Nebraska, is for my family. I grew up here and am happy to have my growing family here as well, I don't think I would like living in a big metropolitan because I have never lived in one before.
Gruberr1 Gruberr1 8 years
We are trying our hardest to stay in the city, but it really isn't easy! Space and cost are the biggest concerns right now, but we love the convenience of living here and try to take advantage of our surroundings - we go to museums, parades, festivals, local parks, theater and more on a weekly basis.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 8 years
No, we've always lived in the suburbs. We have moved several times and a couple of those times were to larger homes to accomodate our family but we didn't leave the city for the suburbs, we were already there.
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