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Dads Help Out 2008-02-27 08:00:00

Does Your Baby Daddy Lend a Hand?

When discussing diaper duty with my pregnant pal, her hubby admitted, "I will never change a diaper. I just don't do that." My jaw hit the floor and I looked at my friend in disbelief. She was speechless.

I am lucky to have a husband who happily splits parenting duties down the middle. He changes diapers, gives baths, reads books, and puts our babe down for naps every day.

Does your partner help you out with parenting duties?

Gabriela14815884 Gabriela14815884 9 years
My husband does a great job, sometimes he needs a little nudge but for the most part he is fabulous :)
dleighl dleighl 9 years
When you say "help out", it makes me think of what used to happen to me when my son was small. I would be out somewhere and would run into someone I know and they would ask if my husband was "babysitting". I would say "No, he's at home with his own child. That's not babysitting." I was obnoxious, but it was a pet peeve of mine.
Moms Moms 9 years
My husband is awesome! I can't imagine raising kids with anyone else...especially the obnoxious guy from the post. Babysugar, your friend should lose him:)
AKirstin AKirstin 9 years
What kind of grown man is afraid of *poo*? lol
ann418 ann418 9 years
My sister-in-law's husband avoids helping out with their new daughter. If he holds her, it's only for about 5 minutes. It makes me sad because I know she would love for him to be more involved. He claims that he doesn't have to do anything around the house because he works and she doesn't. Anyone else dealing with this? The good thing is, I know my boyfriend won't be like this when we have kids. I'm making luckyme's husband give mine lessons...
lawchick lawchick 9 years
I would not marry a man who refused to change his share of diapers. I think that is really chauvanistic (sp?) and mean! My husband and I don't have kids yet, but I'm the squeamish one - changing diapers won't gross him out at all. Plus we have lots of practice cleaning up our pets' messes, ugh.
fashionista119 fashionista119 9 years
I wouldn't call my Husband's part in parenting "Helping out", that would be like saying he's "babysitting" when our Son is alone with him (I've heard Men say about alone-time with their kids and it drives me batty). We are both Parents to our DS, and I don't feel that one "helps" the other.
cbgmick cbgmick 9 years
I answered "other" as - like some of the other posters- it's not that he "helps out". We are both the parents and both take care of our children. We might do different things at different times but it doesn't mean that one is "helping" the other!
JennyJen2 JennyJen2 9 years
I don't think that what my husband does with our daughter is considered helping out - He does the same as me and we work on this parenting gig together.
LiLRuck44 LiLRuck44 9 years
He doesn't "help me out", we just parent our kids together. I swear my husband is the best Daddy in the entire world. He works from home and I stay home with the kids so we do everything together like eat meals, run errands, go to the gym, etc. as a family. He cooks better than any chef in town (and he wonders why I don't like to go out to eat), at EACH meal! If he isn't working, he's playing with the kids. I know we have it wonderful and easy, and I'm eternally grateful...
sofi sofi 9 years
my hubby does a lot with the kids, but sometimes I need him to step up a bit more. He seems a little frazzled if he is left with both kids, so I don't get much time to myself. For the most part, we work well to parent and nurture. But considering I spend more time during the week with them, I'd love some free time when I can- without having to ask. I feel bad because he works hard, but so do I and I just need a change of atmosphere.
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
He's happy to help out but I usually have to ask, which I hate doing.
BlairBear BlairBear 9 years
I do most of the work but only because my husband is at work for about 100 hours a week but when he is here, he does all that he can!
bajeckabean bajeckabean 9 years
It's not about "helping out" in our household. It's about both of us being parents to our child. And we both work (actually, my husband has been laid off for the past three months so... he's more of a stay at home dad at the moment). We both change diapers, give baths, have playtime, take the baby to childcare, etc. I think we're both lucky to have one another to support each other.
luckyme luckyme 9 years
I've got a Daddy of the Year. He does a great job. As part of our routine every night, he gets her out of the bath, feeds her, reads her a book and puts her down for the night. And that's just what he does every night. I love it and I love him. I have certainly lucked out in the husband department.
wingedkiare wingedkiare 9 years
My husband helps me out when I ask for it. Typically he's fairly groggy when the kids are up (he works nights), so I do most of the daily stuff - including naps, diapers, getting 'em dressed. But he does drive them to and from daycare.
ahost ahost 9 years
It is not about him helping me or lending me a hand, or even the other way around. Parenting and all it's duties and pleasures are something we share together.
stina829 stina829 9 years
I probably should have said other... My son's father is never actually around to help. I guess he doesn't feel like it's necessary. Blahhhh.
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