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Do Vaginal Deliveries Affect Postpartum Sex Life?

Do You Think the Method of Delivery Affects One's Sex Life?

People who enjoy doing the horizontal mambo without protection often find themselves entering parenthood. So it goes without saying that those same couples like to return the activity once baby arrives. Expectant mothers who fear the demise of their sex lives due to a vaginal delivery are choosing to have c-sections with the hopes that damages and pain are kept to a minimum. However, there are conflicting reports on whether the method of delivery actually affects one's sex life. Dutch researcher H.J. Brummen, M.D. found:

The study should reassure women who give birth vaginally that except in rare cases, physical factors following childbirth shouldn't affect sexual functioning.

Another study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine stated just the opposite:

Since the turn of the last century, investigators have hypothesized that pregnancy and delivery of an infant can result in anatomical and functional derangement in pelvic floor and intrapelvic organs... Many issues that were not previously incorporated into the planning mode of delivery may now be considered to be of great importance. Among these is sexual function.... We think the results of this study are quite convincing in demonstrating an association between mode of delivery and sexual function.

Do you think your method of delivery affected your sex life?

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Mama-to-a-Monkey Mama-to-a-Monkey 8 years
I've had two cesareans. One was a coerced, unnecessary c/s that resulted in PPD and PTSD (they were both diagnosed by my midwife, OB, and therapist, and psychiatrist), the other was a home vbac turned repeat c/s. Sex after the first c/s was almost impossible for close to a year because I was so terrified of becoming pregnant again and having to go through what happened last time. It hurt, it was not at all enjoyable, and my mind was *so* not in the right place. Sex, this second time around, is much better, but I have noticed a difference in tightness and it is now more difficult to O--it just seems like it takes more work in general on my part. We use AstroGlide because of the nursing dryness, but that's no biggie, and I recently invested in some SmartBalls. So far, so good. I have to say, however, I have serious issues with my husband touching my incision scar due to the numbness. It just doesn't feel good to me. So, my thoughts? Have a vaginal birth. Not only will your body be healthier, your babies and your sex life will be too.
FrankiLee FrankiLee 8 years
I had a c-section (not elective) and it was still painful for me, even when I waited 6 weeks (well almost, haha!). I think no matter what way you give birth to your child, things are bound to change a little bit. As for it affecting our sex life? Not at all. I think that's more of an emotional change between the parents if that happens. Like bluepuppybites said above, parenthood has changed our sex life. We might be more tired one night and just have no energy. We still enjoy it though! It just may not happen as often!
bluepuppybites bluepuppybites 8 years
I think parenthood has changed my sex life, not pushing the kid out. I still love to have sex with my husband and I'm sure I will the after the next one is born!
babysugar babysugar 8 years
Cheers to you cheersdarlin! 10 pounds! You deserve a medal for that.
cheersdarlin916 cheersdarlin916 8 years
I have had one child and the only thing that changed was I find it very difficult to wear tampons anymore. They don't stay in right but sex is still lots of fun. I had my son vaginally and he weighed nearly 10 pounds.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
I haven't had a baby, but here is my opinion. I don't think vaginal delivery has any real detriments to you in the long run. Your hoo-ha may or may not be the same, but is it a huge deal? Your vagina is going to stretch, and it may or may not stay that way depending on the size of your baby, how many you have had, and if you do the kegel exercises. Sometimes, even if you have a huge baby and 8 of them, it will go back to normal. I don't see how a C-section avoids anything. Sure, it avoids a stretched out vagina, but then you are left with scars, etc.
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