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Do You Believe In Baby Showers For Baby #2?

We live in a society where overdone is uber cool. So it's not surprising that many women are being showered over and over again with each new baby. I can understand giving the new baby a welcome-to-the-world gift, but another shower? Is that asking too much?

motherof3 motherof3 9 years
I have a friend who had five babies in five years. She had a shower for all of them and registered for everything. She bought a new crib for every baby. One shower is enough.
NadiaPotter NadiaPotter 9 years
in where I live they threw a shower for every pregnancy. So I don't see any wrong. I see it wrong as some of you said, that they put the list full!!! they shouldn't put a list for the 2nd baby at all. They should let the friends choose what they want to give her. Some of them just are like glad to have a lot of diapers. I went to a diaper shower, we give her diapers of all sizes, powder, creams, soaps. Nothing to expensive, etc.
MissFamous182 MissFamous182 9 years
Each baby should get one.
FashionBunny FashionBunny 9 years
My daughter was born two months premature (the day before my baby shower) and was in the hospital for eight months. I never got a baby shower. So, I would say YES to baby showers for 2nd .
sweetnshy5282 sweetnshy5282 9 years
I love baby showers, mine or someone else's. I think that it's wonderful to celebrate the birth of each of your children. You may not need much the second or third time around, but a party is a party. It's fun and you get to have all your loved ones around you to celebrate the addition to the family. Party on!
abqmama abqmama 9 years
My sister-in-law gave us a diaper party before the birth of our third son. It was alot more fun than a traditional shower because it was all of our friends and family and was really just a chance to get together before the baby was born. We didn't play any games or even really have a baby theme, we just had a good time visiting. It was also nice to be set for diapers for a long time.
phatE phatE 9 years
twinkle.. a party after the birth is my worst nightmare.. let me pass my child around to a room full of adults, who are talking, and wanting to hold her, etc.. i don't think so.. celebrate her after she's built up her immune system and isn't sleeping 18 hours a day..
oc-sugar oc-sugar 9 years
i have a group of moms (10 of us) that i hang out with, we all met in pre-natal or mommy and me yoga, we have all become very close and many moms are now on their second, instead of a shower, we do something called A Baby Sprinkle, we all go in and get one gift and we all go for a sunday brunch. a lot of fun and nothing fancy but still a time to celebrate mom and baby #2.
amber_castaldo amber_castaldo 9 years
The baby shower is for the baby as much as it is for the mama. I think it's important to honor each baby, especially if the second one is of a different sex. In my mom's group most of the mom's are on round 3 of babies, we threw them all a shower for baby number 2 and are already planing showers for babies number 3.
cnlew cnlew 9 years
I think it's fine to have a shower for your second child, especially if it's been a few years or the sex is different. If you don't feel like you need a bunch more stuff, but still want to have the party...A nice way to do it is to only register for those few items you absolutely need. Then request that in addition to or in lieu of a gift for you, they bring a gift to donate to a womens shelter or childrens services. You can still have fun and celebrate your new baby, and there will be presents to open and "ooh" and "ahh" at, but you also remember that you've done it before, and donating the gifts to someone who really needs them would be very thoughtful.
AmyQ AmyQ 9 years
Tradition is your only suppose to have a Baby Shower for your first born. Times have changed and i've noticed more and more people are having them for every pregnancy. I personally would only want a second one if my next child was a girl b/c I already had the boy ...
buch1979 buch1979 9 years
For my first everyone and their mother wanted to throw a baby shower. Thankfully I went from 8 scheduled showers to 3 actual showers. I just discovered that I'm pregnant again dispite the fact that I was on the pill. I fear the five hostesses that didn't have a chance to throw a party 2 years ago will insist on the opportunity to throw the shower of their dreams. I know they mean well but I'm kindof dreading the idea.
afordster afordster 9 years
I have two friends having their second baby and we are having a brunch to celebrate the new babies and moms but not a full baby shower. I believe more in a mini celebrations with maybe small gifts of diapers and wipes.
Gabriela14815884 Gabriela14815884 9 years
I am all for having a shower for each child, since I think every baby needs to be celebrated. I don't think the subsequent showers should be as big as the first but having a nice get together with friends and family in a more casual setting would be nice.
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
It's tacky. You should still have everything you need from the first baby if it hasn't been too long between babies. I'd have a party after the birth to celebrate the baby.
phatE phatE 9 years
I've never heard of it being inappropriate, around here people have showers for each child..
MotoLinz MotoLinz 9 years
I actually didn't have an official registry. I put our chosen travel system and extra car bases on it so my MILNIL could easily find them for Christmas. Other than that, I didn't register for a thing. Though I know it's normal, I felt very weird about it. Friends just got me generic stuff like blankets, bibs, and clothing, but we took care of the rest.
LavitaBella LavitaBella 9 years
I think its prefectly fine to have a baby shower for baby #2...My cousin has 3 kids, and shes had a baby shower for each. I first one was a big one, and after that, they have just been small gatherings with family. We "showered" her with gifts and played games. For the 3rd baby, my side of the family didnt do anything for her...we did give her gifts, but no shower. I
GirlC GirlC 9 years
I like the idea of a pamper mom for the second one.
sunnytxbaby sunnytxbaby 9 years
I think a second shower is nice especially if the first was a boy and the 2nd is a girl now matter how far apart they were born. there is not much boy stuff you can reuse with a girl!
LittlePinkStar LittlePinkStar 9 years
every baby deserves to be showered with lovin :)
Bookish Bookish 9 years
When I was pregnant with my second baby, my friends threw me a surprise shower. Most of the gifts were diapers, which were very much appreciated. I hadn't ever thought I'd be having another shower so I didn't register anywhere- and would have protested had someone asked me to. I think a party for each baby is nice- because each baby IS special. Pamper mom parties, diaper parties, anything like that- it can be fun, and for an expectant mom, it's nice. But I know a woman that just had a baby shower for her FOURTH baby- registered everywhere for it- and had the nerve to complain that people didn't buy everything on her registry. THAT's tacky.
macgirl macgirl 9 years
I really don't love baby shower games. Plus I'm not a fan of attention like that. So when I got pregnant with my second child I really tried to get out of it saying it was my second baby. Unfortunately I was overridden as it has been 9 years since my last baby and it is my husbands first child. It is this Saturday. I've actually come around on it as I forgot how much stuff you need for these little guys!
fjaril fjaril 9 years
it's cool. especially if second baby is a different sex than first baby. tho, maybe 3rd, 4th etc would be a bit much.
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
Personally, I think it's tacky. But, a lot of people tried to talk me into allowing one for my second child. They were convinced that since she was a different sex, that it was kosher. Maybe they're right. I still thought it was tacky and absolutely refused. You can celebrate baby #2 without a shower.
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