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Do You Believe in Promise Rings and Purity Balls?

Papa Joe Simpson is more than a minister turned manager to celeb sisters, Jessica and Ashlee Simpson — he's their father. And, long before the family headed for the bright lights of Hollywood and was catapulted to fame by the reality shows that he masterfully crafted, the dad gifted his eldest daughter, a vocal virgin, a promise ring. It was a commitment to be the only man in her life until she married.

In the same vein, purity balls, formal events where young ladies pledge their purity to their fathers or vice versa are held throughout the country. Do you think these rituals are helpful to a girl's self-esteem or unsettling and sexually repressive?


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brielleblonde brielleblonde 9 years
uhh.. papa joe might have done this with jessica... but ashlee is the one who got knocked up before she got married!
rgrl rgrl 9 years
This sounds like a sick idea that was created by a pedophile. :sick:
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 9 years
ewww and I agree with the comment that it's misogynistic. so creepy and wrong.
orisugar orisugar 9 years
It's just plain weird and oedipal to pledge your purity to your father! ew.
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 9 years
These are so creepy. And why is it only for females? Why don't boys pledge their purity to their mothers? Oh yeah, men are supposed to be experienced and manly and women should all be virgins. That's so f--ked up. My friend in high school was a devout Catholic who told everyone that she was a virgin and planned to be one until she got married. She still engaged in oral sex, which I guess didn't count? Anyway, she ended up sleeping with a guy while she was in high school who was much older than her, and who she had met only hours earlier. Meanwhile, my family wasn't overly religious, and I never planned to remain a virgin, but I waited until I was 21 and in a serious relationship to have sex. I'm not knocking staying a virgin or religion, I'm just saying that vowing to "maintain your purity" doesn't mean jack. It comes down to the individual and how they were raised, not a promise ring or purity ball.
paine paine 9 years
Purity balls? just the name makes me go, LOl. I vote for REAL sex education and and accurate information. Parents will do alot more to towards helping children make safe and smart sexual decisions. And to teach this as soon as humanely possible to kids. 21st century here people, catch up.
Mishell Mishell 9 years
I find the idea of a dad giving his daughter a promise ring to be very creepy. Virginity is hugely over rated. My first husband and I were virgins when we married. How were we to know that sex drive would be one of our biggest problems. He wanted sex once a month. I wanted it a couple times a day. I was the one dissapointed. It never got better. The marriage lasted 5 years.
xrawk_starrx xrawk_starrx 9 years
I think they're stupid.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
Oh and Joe Simpson is far creepier than the purity balls.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
They're creepy as hell. Pleddging myself to my dad until I lose my virginity is just a disgusting thought. I imagine if these had been around when I was a teen, my parents would've been just as icked out as I am every time I read about these. In fact, I know my mom is. Weird, weird, weird.
star520 star520 9 years
The whole thing is stupid. My school had comprehensive sex ed, it was really a great thing and opened up nearby schools to drop 'abstinence only' -- however, when the girls were seperated from the boys to talk about breast cancer and testicular cancer respectively, the girls were taught how to check themselves, while the boys were taught symptoms and then told that they need their girlfriends to check FOR them. It was absolutely insane.
badkitty badkitty 9 years
creepy beyond all belief.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
The whole thing creeps me out. Personally, I would never have a sexual conversation with my Dad. That violates a boundary. Also, my Dad is my Dad, never "the man in my life." I DON'T want that boundary blurred. Talk about having Daddy issues! LOL
lolabella lolabella 9 years
going there with your dad is utterly creepy, and it's also incredibly misogynistic. the boys go to "integrity balls," where THEIR virginity isn't the issue ... it's not shoved down their throats to be 'pure' like the girls. they're told that they need to watch out for doing baaaad things with "someone else's future wife." what? the focus is to keep a girl pure ... because she's going to "belong" to another man? it's almost like a guy saying, "don't piss in the back of that truck, dude. i might buy it next year."
megnmac megnmac 9 years
"I think having your father be "the only man in your life til you marry" is a bit creepy!" ditto. Also, when I was in jr high my church started the True Love Waits program for the kids my age that was going to culminate in a ring giving ceremony in front of the whole church where you promised not to have sex before marriage. I didn't see the point, thought it was weird, and my mom didn't want me to do it - the whole public aspect skeeved us out. Sex and the choice not to have sex shouldn't be public or judged. She did take the opportunity to sit down and talk about sex - and not the be safe speech, but the emotional take care of you speech. She bought me a necklace with 5 rings on it that stood for hope, truth, love, friendship, and faith... things I'd be looking for before choosing to have sex. I think that really made a difference a few years later when I could have made light of losing my virginity and instead waited until I was in a real relationship with someone I trusted.
vinnie vinnie 9 years
creepy! your "purity" belongs to yourself, not to your father!
albeli albeli 9 years
BTW, why the pic of Gwyneth?
anniekim anniekim 9 years
Oh, and it's such a reinforcement of the whole madonna/whore dichotomy.
anniekim anniekim 9 years
I agree with the above posts. There is some super creepy vibe about these rings and balls. The subtext is all repressed sexuality--not real well disguiesed with the names and all--and unseemly display. Sex education and straight information from parents will do alot more to towards helping children make safe and smart sexual decisions. I see and agree with the inherent sexism problem, but girls are more vulnerable that boys in this arena.
luckyme luckyme 9 years
Purity Balls is such a bad choice. Couldn't they have come up with something that didn't have the sexual innuendo? Anyway, totally creepy... And what about Ashlee? Apparently she didn't have to be pure, huh?
albeli albeli 9 years
The whole thing skeeves me out--promising herself to her dad till she marries? Eww. And I agree that only having girls do these things is a double standard.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 9 years
I just had another thought. Why the big public displays? I mean why are we as a society so focused on who's having sex with who? And don't these purity dances just bring more attention to that? It seems nothing is sacred anymore. Why should anyone discuss their sexual habits publicly? I just don't get it.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 9 years
faery I agree.
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