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Do You Hide Behind Your Children On Social Networking Sites?

Do You Hide Behind Your Children on Social Networking Sites?

Time stretched parents can't keep their fingers from the keyboard when it comes to social networking sites. Some mamas say they are addicted and others consider logging on a guilty pleasure. Seventy-five percent of lilsugar readers use Facebook, Twitter and the like to check in on friends and family, but we're curious what type of picture is on your profile page. Is it your mug or your mini mes?

Feminist author Katie Roiphe recently noticed that many of her acquaintance’s Facebook pages only featured photos of their offspring or showcased the moms holding their children rather than solo shots. She argued that the photos are representative of a shift in how highly-educated, well-rounded women view themselves – not as independent adults, but as "over-devoted … to our children’s education, entertainment and general formation."

Whose picture made your profile page?


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siarlas siarlas 7 years
Personally I'm not comfortable having pictures of my daughter up on Facebook. Although she probably would make a better profile picture than I would. Right now on Facebook I hide behind a picture of one of my favourite cars.
phatE phatE 8 years
i would almost be more fearful of creepers seeing my kids and not me.. i don't notice people using their children's pics as their default. they do, but people also have pics of their dogs, and other random things.. i think the people who've been married for 1+ years and still have pics from their wedding days are the ones "hiding".. facebook is about being current on your life.. if you've got a kid, then that's current.. the one thing i think is way wrong is the status updates on breast feeding or other things that really you're whole friend list would prefer not know.. like "omg i am so engorged" really people....
Chloe-Wilson Chloe-Wilson 8 years
Hi, I first started social networking with Twitter (@Ben10Fan) and have to admit to hiding behind my son's photo. I braved up a bit as I went on so Facebook has my photo! My reason for using my son's photo at first was not that I had lost my independence but that I felt more confident saying what I thought not having my photo splashed about. I don't know why really. As I used these social sites more I decided it was OK to use my own photo as I try to contribute something in my comments and never say horrible stuff. Cheers, Chloe Son Time Now - A Boys Toys Blog
bluepuppybites bluepuppybites 8 years
Well that's my daughter right there on my profile. She's on my facebook too. I love her and really glad that she's made me a better person, she definitely the best thing I have right now. I have had to put my life on hold a bit because of her and so that my husband can get his business going. But I have put up cartoons, my wedding pics and flowers.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
well that explains it then. one of my girls has autism, so NOTHING in my life will ever come close to impacting me the way autism has. being a mom to an autistic child is who i am. no matter what comes next autism will be bigger.
kmckay kmckay 8 years
many people i know on facebook that are mommies only post about the kids and use kid's pictures (ex. Petey won't nap and Sammy 's diaper exploded all over his back) no joke. i'm not judging but i can see how this article might have a point- it's YOUR facebook page, not your child's
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
one of my kids is usually on my pix. i don't want to look at myself and it reminds me of real estate agents who put their pictures on their business cards; does anyone really care what i look like? and to me, my most important function in life, and what gives me the most pleasure is my children. i like having that represented in my pix.
Chouette4u Chouette4u 8 years
Currently, I have a picture of myself and my daughter, but it changes. I would never put one up with just my daughter though.
sham28 sham28 8 years
The thing that creeps me out is when the "name" of the person is (example) Olivia's Mommy! I literally go "ugh." I like the baby pictures, they're cute. But mom loses her name?? Time to spend a little time getting to know yourself again.
backfat backfat 8 years
My kids are a lot prettier than I am. I'm sure most people would prefer to see them over me.
Gabriela14815884 Gabriela14815884 8 years
Well said sarahinparis! I have my daughter's picture on my profile, I almost always do.
sarahinparis sarahinparis 8 years
Does Katie Roiphe have children? I have my daughter's photo up because I'm proud of her. I'm fairly accomplished in my own right, but nothing makes me prouder or happier than her. Beyond that, as a parent I should be devoted to my child's everything. I planned to have a child, now I need to raise her. For the next 18 years, every single last decision I make will take into account how it will impact my daughter's life. And I'm not ashamed of that. It doesn't mean that I'm not an independent adult . . . it means I'm and independent adult who has decided to have a child and giver her what she needs to grow and develop into an independent adult. Roiphe's comments reflect a certain self-absorption that would not be in the best interest of a child. Incidentally, my husband also has a picture of her as his profile picture.
kty kty 8 years
i do use my son pics on facebook
ginns ginns 8 years
I use my child's picture on facebook because he's cute and I look like hell these days!
bushra bushra 8 years
in some ways i am guilty of this in that i have a picture of my boy on my teamsugar profile but not one of me. but that was during the launch of lilsugar and i was on maternity leave and all about my baby at the time. i think i might take it off now though.
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