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Do You and Your Spouse Travel Separately On Purpose?

Do You and Your Spouse Travel Separately on Purpose?

Friends of mine recently planned their first trip away from their one-year-old baby. They told me how stressful it was to secure family members to care for their daughter, book the hotel and their individual flights. When I asked why the flight arrangements were so difficult, they explained that they had to find flights that departed and arrived at similar times, but on separate carriers. They didn't want to fly on the same plane, in the event of a disaster.

Do you and your spouse fly solo when you're traveling without your tot?


sofi sofi 9 years
Oh, I totally agree with the paranoia rubbing off. My friend is horrified when flying. There was an incident that scared her, but her parent's obsession with flying separately must play a part of her fear.
joannn joannn 9 years
I've heard of this, and apparently the Danish royalty does it (Crown Prince Frederik doesnt travel on the same plane as his son Prince Christian) But comeon, it's extreme. You have a better chance of getting into a road accident than an airplane mishap
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 9 years
Definitely together. (I can't for the life of me fathom how difficult it must be to be unable to secure family to watch my daughter. It's nice to have had that planned out before I brought my daughter into this world.)
alethia037 alethia037 9 years
Not only do I feel it is fear taking over, similar to what macgirl said, but also, I get airsick and having my hubby next to me makes me feel SO much better... and he hates to fly, so having me next to him calms him down too :)
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
Logically, I just can't understand this at all. If you honestly believe the risk to your life is great enough that you feel it necessary to make difficult and special arrangements, what kind of parent are you to take on that risk at all!?
Greggie Greggie 9 years
I completely agree that it would rub off on the kids and feed into their paranoia as well. I have my phobias but I do my best to keep them from interfering with the kids' lives.
macgirl macgirl 9 years
For me, I can't live a life wondering "what if" all the time. If you go to extremes like that I think there's probably bigger issues going on. You don't fly together, don't drive together, better not sleep in the same house- what if there was a fire?? Makes me a bit stressed out just thinking about all the "what if's" you can conjure up.
apma apma 9 years
It's never even occurred to me to do this. I initially wouldn't consider this but mostly for a selfish reason. I would probably have a great deal of survivor's guilt is something should happen and my significant other was killed. It makes sense I guess.
splayer splayer 9 years
Wow... I've never heard of this. It seems extremely morbid. Also, as Mommy of Three also stated, the tragic could also happen in a car, or any other mode of transportation for that matter.
schnappycat schnappycat 9 years
It's occurred to me, but I'd probably never actually do it. I'm a very fearful flyer, but logically I know air travel is relatively safe. And having my husband with me is such a huge help that it outweighs any irrational fears I have. But I have heard of other people doing this.
Mommy-of-Three Mommy-of-Three 9 years
I've never traveled without my kids, so it isn't something I have thought of. I guess it's the same as when we go out without the kids. We don't drive separately and something could happen in the car.
sofi sofi 9 years
never would have considered it but I was actually talking to a friend recently whose parents have always done it. They travel overseas separately a lot!
skigurl skigurl 9 years
is it just me or is that picture taken on such a weird angle that it looks like normal heads on midget bodies? and no, i'd never consider this. i don't know how to explain it, but it's too "planned"...too preempted, and expecting of a's pessimistic, and i also don't think it would make for a very fun vacation! do you also not drive in cars together, just in case? airline disasters are few and far between. you're more likely to be killed in a car.
roxtarchic roxtarchic 9 years
it wld never have occurred to me either... i also think i would need the extra hands to help me w/our lil guy on a plane, i dunno... we havent done it so i could be wrong & plenty of people do it w/out a spouse or are single parents... but we wouldnt do it for reasons based on fear... my thoughts on that is you cant control life... it happens, and do they take separate cars to the grocery store? i also think you project your fears on your children even if you dont intend to...
imcs imcs 9 years
it makes a teeny weeny bit of sense, but it's a little extreeme.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
It would never even occur to me. I can maybe see it when leaving the children at home, so that if something were to happen only one parent would be gone, but I still doubt I'd do it. A friend of mine not only did this, but also insisted on having a third child because with only one two, if one died the other one would be alone.
meandtheo meandtheo 9 years
my grandmother always did this, i see why you would do it and i would consider far we have all traveled together or one of us has stayed with the baby...still waiting to go on a trip without the little one in tow!
jessie jessie 9 years
i've never thought of that before! we have a will, so if something does happen to us...our kids will be taken care of by people of our choosing. but to take seperate flights...come me thats a little extreme. when the time comes...the time comes
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