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Dragon Mom Parenting Philosophy

How Do You Parent a Child With No Future? In the Moment

You've heard of helicopter parenting, free range parenting, the Tiger Mom philosophy, and even slow parenting. While each of the concepts uses different practices, they all have a common goal — raising well-adjusted children who will be contributing members of society. But what is a mom to do when her child is living on borrowed time? As one mom explains, it's time to throw the parenting books and magazines away and live in the moment.

Over the weekend, Emily Rapp wrote about life with her 18-month-old son, Ronan, in The New York Times. In Notes From a Dragon Mom, she described her parenting philosophy based on her son's Tay-Sachs disease diagnosis. Ronan will most likely die before seeing his third birthday. With so much of parenting based on preparing children for the future, Rapp is eschewing the common philosophies and living each day in the moment. She writes:

But today Ronan is alive and his breath smells like sweet rice. I can see my reflection in his greenish-gold eyes. I am a reflection of him and not the other way around, and this is, I believe, as it should be . . . Parenting, I've come to understand, is about loving my child today. Now. In fact, for any parent, anywhere, that's all there is.

What do you think about Rapp's Dragon Mom philosophy? Should we abandon all others and simply stick to hers?

Source: Flickr User WTL photos

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Budderflie Budderflie 5 years
I lost my mother when I was very young and I now have a 2 yr old son. Every single day I take this day and live as if I (or he) went today and Id be content to know I breathed all of him in. Ive never taken my time for granted especially now that I have him. You never know...
bornwith bornwith 5 years
As a parent of a child with san filippo syndrome, I can understand this mother.
Angelica Angelica 5 years
Sob. Incredible story, article, attitude and reminder to live for every single moment — whether you're a parent or not.
Natasha-Dantzig Natasha-Dantzig 5 years
Oh man, I read this over the weekend and it definitely changed my thinking (after I got past the crying). I think it's pretty amazing, and while most of our kids - thank god - do have futures we need to plan and prepare for, I think most of us could probably use a healthy amount of Dragon Mom's philosophy. More living and loving in the moment is good for everyone.
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