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Are Drinks at a Baby Shower a Do or a Don't?

Are Drinks at a Baby Shower a Do or a Don't?

I caught up on this season of The L Word this weekend in time for the series finale and was enthralled by the episode where Jenny throws Max Sweeney a baby shower (yep, you read it right, they went for the pregnant man plot!).

It was a touching and painful episode to watch because Max was in the process of transitioning from being a woman to becoming a man when he got pregnant and is completely and utterly overwhelmed by the prospect of motherhood and very female changes happening to his body. Despite all the drama, and the tears that welled up when I considered his trauma, I was distracted by the fact that everyone at the baby shower had a Bellini, beer or glass of white wine in their hands.

I've been to my share of non-traditional showers (heck, I have even been to one in a rented out lounge), but I happen to think it's a lil awkward for guests to knock back a six pack or shots while playing diaper games. I'm curious: do you think drinks at baby showers are a do or a don't?
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sham28 sham28 8 years
Presumeably it's not rude to drink if it's the mother-to-be's choice to serve alcohol.
anniems anniems 8 years
I totally agree with SugarKat. Baby showers are much better with a drink or two. Besides there is nothing wrong with the mom-to-be having a glass of wine herself.
KWM KWM 8 years
Definitely a Do!
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
a do. i have a daughter that has an allergy to gluten (what makes baked goods soft and good). but at her birthday parties i don't serve the guests gluten free cake. they have the typical cake and she has her gluten free cake. each person has their treat of choice and that makes everyone feel included and thought of.
Rally-RE Rally-RE 8 years
so glad you referenced the L word! what a great show. however, too bad i'm not following along weekly and i watch it once the dvd is released. now i know that max gets pregnant! darn!!!!
goldiecar goldiecar 8 years
My friends claim the drinks that cannot be imbibed by the pregnant friend. I'm more than willing to 'give away' my drinks at my upcoming shower. Heck, I'll even be a designated driver.
SweetnLow SweetnLow 8 years
And really, that shower had bigger problems than the alcohol being served. Jenny kept calling Max "mother"? The "advice" from Tina on needing an episiotomy? That was an AWFUL shower.. no wonder he had a panic attack.
SweetnLow SweetnLow 8 years
My baby shower was about 3 weeks ago at my favorite wine bar. To be honest, I was against it, and I'm a sommelier-wannabe. But in the end I have to remember that it was more for my guests to enjoy themselves, so I'm fine with it.
plus_2_kid plus_2_kid 8 years
I think if the mom is OK with it then it's an absolute DO. I would love it at mine (if I have one) -- the only funny part is I always imagine baby showers to take place at like 10am and throwing back a few beers at that time always feels a little naughty.
Lily-Inferno Lily-Inferno 8 years
I would normally say its not big deal, but for my baby shower, I would prefer alcohol was no where to be seen. Im the kind of person who doesnt like to be around those who are drinking when I cant. It drives me bat sh*t. Seriously. And I could be down with it, if my family werent such heavy drinkers. I just realized..I miss the alcohol right now..I cant wait til October.
luckyme luckyme 8 years
TNMommy, you sound just like us! You worded it far better than I did, though :).
luckyme luckyme 8 years
We had a barbecue and it was for both my husband and I and there was definitely beer there...I didn't think it was rude at all. No one was getting wasted, or anything. They were just having a beer with their burger. We also had beer at my daughter's first birthday party. Again, nothing crazy and it was also a bbq. At both occasions, none of our friends/family came to "party." I see nothing wrong with a beer at a barbecue. And bluepuppybites - I'm so with you! I crave beer like nobody's business when I'm pregnant! I can't wait to have a Killians or a Guinness come June.
TMommy TMommy 8 years
I don't see a problem with it at all. In fact I insisted on it much to my sisters' dismay. We had a coed BBQ in lieu of a traditional baby shower and beer, wine, prosecco were available for all. A few drinks in honor of the future mom and dad is exactly our style. And while I couldn't partake I absolutely wanted everyone to relax and enjoy themselves. And after all of the traditional and lonely (sans hubby) stuff before our wedding I was overjoyed to have a fun celebration on a sunny day with ALL of our friends and family having fun and toasting to us and future baby. Most of the male guests had never been to a baby shower previously and told us how much they loved it! I
Roarman Roarman 8 years
I don't see a problem with it.
Jules1976 Jules1976 8 years
I agree with Catepillargirl. The baby shower is to honor the mom and baby-to-be, and it seems rude for everyone to indulge if she shouldn't (although most docs agree that an occassional glass of wine is fine). Of course the games and all that stuff are boring--they're boring for the mother too. But suck it up and play nice. If you can't spend a couple of hours with friends without alcohol, you might need to rethink things.
psterling psterling 8 years
Its a total do- for me at least! I'll be fine with a mocktail but I want my girls to enjoy themselves! I've never been one for diaper games and other baby shower games anyway.
SugarKat SugarKat 8 years
It's a total DO!!! Baby showers are so boring to begin with. UG. Why make them worse. Not that you need alcohol to have fun, but wow! I've been to both in the last year and had way more fun at the one with wine!!!
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I think its innapropriate because you should never serve something that the Mom to be cannot partake of. thats just rude.
bluepuppybites bluepuppybites 8 years
All the showers I've thrown or been too were in churches. So there is no booze allowed. I would have a problem with people drinking at my shower but that's just me cause I really want a beer all the time right now, but I think it depends on the mum.
schnappycat schnappycat 8 years
We had champagne punch at my shower (it was at a 5 star hotel) and I just had regular punch. I don't see the big deal at all. I think my guests should be able to enjoy themselves. Like other people have said, I don't think a keg is appropriate, but otherwise, a "girlie" or "themed" drink is totally acceptable. I even had an alcoholic punch at my son's recent first birthday party. After all, most of the guests were adults and I figure it was the last party for him I'd have any "say" in and could make it "adult-like."
iieee_grrl iieee_grrl 8 years
We had champagne cocktails at my shower last week - I'm due in 2 weeks, and my OB said "make sure you have one - a small one, but enjoy your day." I also have a very naturalpathic doctor, so she not only allows a glass of wine or two a week, she basically suggests it!!
skigurl skigurl 8 years
drinks anywhere are a do something appropriate though - champagne or champagne cocktails in flutes or fruity cocktails or colorful martinis or sangria or white wine...maybe not a beer keg or a texas mickey or boxed red
Gabriela14815884 Gabriela14815884 8 years
I agree, it depends. My family likes to party so usually drinks are offered, its not to get drunk and stupid but just to have like any other party.
mhg mhg 8 years
i almost always serve drinks, alcoholic and non, when i throw baby showers. i've been to plenty where it's not served, but, either way, no problem.
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