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Is It Easier to Raise a Son or a Daughter?

It's a question of sex. From the parent perspective, is it easier to have a son or a daughter? It has been said that boys are more physically taxing while girls are more mentally draining. And, that sons are harder when they are younger and daughters are more difficult as they age.

What's your experience?

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amber_castaldo amber_castaldo 9 years
I only have a son so I will say boys. However I have been around the same group of kids for almost 2 years now and I have to say as they age the girls are getting to becrazy. Just yesterday one of the girls in our play group (they are 3 years old) said, when I get older I am going to have a big wedding!
VelmaBean VelmaBean 9 years
I have one of each and honestly they each bring their own challenges and joys - it's more about the person and less about what sex they are.
JennyJen2 JennyJen2 9 years
I have no clue ho wto answer this poll. Like a dear friend's mother always says - "Having a baby is the biggest gamble of your lfe - you never know what you are going to get." Luckily our daughter has been a dream, but U hav ebeen warned that this is a trick to get me back for more! :ROTFL:
faerymagick15 faerymagick15 9 years
I have one of each and even with my son and him being a special needs child my daughter has been the toughest one. She has battled depression, is a former cutter, and has had her share of problems despite the stable and loving family of two parents she was brought up in. It goes to show even very involved parents who love and nurture their children and think they are doing everything they can...there can still be tremendous struggles within a child. Happily...she is doing great, graduated from high school last year, is going to community college and wants to be...a child psychologist. So she can help kids.
khrystena khrystena 9 years
I think it depends on the child and on the family. My daughter is just like my husbands niece. very strong willed and very active (like climbing the 5 foot cat scratching post by herself at 12 months) but the boys are so easy peasy at the same age. the girls seem to mellow out in their teen years and the boys are nothing but trouble.
starbright14 starbright14 9 years
I think it depends on the child... some are just difficult, no matter their gender.
rgrl rgrl 9 years
I think it depends on the child's personality. If you only base it on the sex of the child, I'm sure each one has its challenges and it probably evens out in the end.
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
It's too soon to say. My eight year old daughter has been a dream and my three year old son has been less dreamy. :( I'm told they will trade places later. We'll see.
stina829 stina829 9 years
Well, I don't personally know because I only have a son and he's only 4 months old. I would think that it really depends on the child, like everyone else has said. I will say this - my best friend has a girl who's 10 and a boy who's 1 1/2. I've been around both of her kids since birth... And looking at her daughter, I am SOOOOOO glad I have a boy. I love her daughter to death, but she's the ULTIMATE girly girl who's already boy crazy. That would drive me nuts, lol
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I don't have children, but according to my Mom I was very difficult to raise. She thinks part of the reason was because I was "gifted," precocious (started speaking at 10 months), had a mind of my own, and extremely strong-willed. I always thought I knew better (well, I did). It got worse when I became a teenager. I challenged my Mom a lot, and drove her crazy. :)
rca1 rca1 9 years
i have two sons so i can say that two brothers are so different.but boys do have more male hormones and we all know what that can do to them.but girls are so different its hard to i would say that it is piontless to compare because both are so different
sofi sofi 9 years
ha- i was just thinking about this today. My son is definitely very active and stubborn. I was hoping for a girl who is more laid back and passive- yeah right! She is just as active as her bro and a bit more stubborn, feisty, and strong-willed. They are definitely different but both challenging in their own way. I do fear those teenage years with girls.
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
Well, I haven't had the chance to raise either a boy or a girl yet but hopefully I'll get one of each one day. But I have heard this saying before and thought all of you would find it funny :) With a boy all you have to worry about is his penis, with a girl you have to worry about every boys' penises :) I have had a person tell me that if she was sure that her next child would be a boy she'd have another one... but her husband only seemed to make girls and she couldn't handle another girl. (she had two boys by one man and then had two girls by her current husband)
luckyme luckyme 9 years
Too generalized. It totally depends on so many things. Regardless of sex, I think the teenage years are going to have their difficulties. My mom put it this way: with me, she didn't have to guess what was wrong. I was pretty 'out there' with it. I told her why I was mad or upset...probably a little too easily. With my brother, she was constantly guessing. He would turn completely into himself. So, we each brought our own challenges. It could have gone this way were we two girls or two boys. It also might have been totally different. Who knows?
Fatica Fatica 9 years
I agree with the above posts - depends on the child but I think in general, boys are harder at first and girls are harder later.
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
:rotfl: @ she didn't agree with what all the "experts" said would "work" A ha ha ha ha! My daughter doesn't either. :Rotfl:
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
yes jen, that oh-so-smug feeling is brought to a quick end with the "right child" lol. we had a peditrician that had an easy one and then #2 came along. she was really a humbling experience for him, turned out she didn't agree with what all the "experts" said would "work" :ROTFL:
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
:rotfl: Lickety split! Same here! I was pretty uppity about other parents' shortcomings when I just had my son. Then I gave birth to a sweet little hellion. :faint:
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
i think it depends on the child. i don't think the sex of the child has much to do with it, it's their temperment and the situations they are exposed to. my oldest has autism, i doubt anyone could imagine how difficult that as been and it has nothing to do with her being a girl. my middle child is super easy. if she had been twins and i hadn't had any other children i would have thought people just didn't know how to parent.
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
I believed all this stuff until I had one of each. :rotfl: My son has been way more laidback and go with the flow on discipline issues but required a lot more help from me. My daughter is SO strongwilled but has been able to pull her own clothes out of the closet, dress herself and change her own diaper (not poop of course) since shortly after turning two. She's essentially potty trained herself but god forbid I have a suggestion about what might match her shirt. :P I just don't think you can generalize across an entire sex like that.
Annika2494003 Annika2494003 9 years
Funny you say that qbert! My friend's dad recently told me "Sons are harder until age 12, then they are a dream. Daughters give you hell through their teens but are a dream when they are little." I guess both are a blessing and a challenge in different ways.
qbert qbert 9 years
I think raising a daughter will be easier until she is about 13. Then a son would be easier.
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