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Not Every Expectant Mom Wants a Baby

The Romanian film, 4 Months, 3 Weeks and 2 Days reminds us that not every expectant mother has visions of pink and blue or is even ready to welcome a baby.

The foreign flick about a college student seeking an illegal abortion is getting rave reviews.

According to today's New York Times review:

In “4 Months, 3 Weeks and 2 Days,” a ferocious, unsentimental, often brilliantly directed film about a young woman who helps a friend secure an abortion, the camera doesn’t follow the action, it expresses consciousness itself. This consciousness — alert to the world and insistently alive — is embodied by a young university student who, one wintry day in the late 1980s, helps her roommate with an abortion in Ceausescu’s Romania when such procedures were illegal, not uncommon and too often fatal. It’s a pitiless, violent story that in its telling becomes a haunting and haunted intellectual and aesthetic achievement.

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raluque raluque 9 years
it sounds awful and it was a really awful time... my mom had to get an abortion in the eighties, because the developing of the baby had stopped, and they almost let her die, because they had to approve the de-sealing of an abortion kit... they weren't even allowing it for health reasons... and i can understand that women didn't want children at that time. you had to stand in line for days and they registered your id for 1 liter of milk - the equivalent of 4 mugs. ceausescu had doctors compose an "ideal" diet for all romanians, that didn't include meat... heat and electricity were a luxury... imagine raising a child without those two things. mothers couldn't eat right, because there was so little food in shops that they couldn't even breastfeed. mothers breastfed their babies for 1-3 months, but then they had no milk left, because of the lack of food... i remember my mom keeping the bananas (a luxury) on the kitchen cupboard and i could only eat half a banana a day, to have nutrients for more days. that is sadistic and dark, having to keep your kid from eating, not some movie. children and mothers were suffering form chronic anemia... there's so much to talk about that i don't think it could be covered in a simple post, like this one. the film really is dark, it is grueling ans sad, but then again, those were the times, and the director isn't overreacting at all. sometimes it's good to see such things, because you start to appreciate more what you have and what you take for granted. i'm sorry to sound like this, but not all things are happy, pink or powder-blue. i'm pregnant myself and i can only be happy, that i can make a choice about my life. times are very different now, but one must not forget, because if we do, we might regress to the same things if we don't pay attention.
sweetnshy5282 sweetnshy5282 9 years
that sounds awful to me... I could never watch a film like that.
DulceSkye DulceSkye 9 years
Yeah, it's just too painful of a topic for many women. Abortion is not an easy choice, even in countries like ours where it is legal. I think the wording in the review is over the top because it's just too dark of a subject to write an easy breezy review about. You kinda have to use words like "haunted" and haunting". LOL
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
Interesting. I don't think I will watch the movie, though. It sounds too dark and intense for me.
rgrl rgrl 9 years
It sounds very true to what I remember of communist Romania. Although I was just a kid when we left the country I know there were many situations like this and birth control was very sparse. Hence the many orphans in Romania also.
MotoLinz MotoLinz 9 years
I just find the wording amusing. Excessive verbosity comes to mind.
myconscience myconscience 9 years
sounds interesting. what about the review is perplexing?
AliCherri1 AliCherri1 9 years
I'm w/ you MotoLinz!
MotoLinz MotoLinz 9 years
I consider myself a mostly smart person, but I don't know WTF that review is supposed to mean. :rotfl:
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
Wow. Sounds very intense.
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