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Is It Fair For a Woman to Get Pregnant on Purpose?

We've all heard stories about the wife who skipped pills or poked holes in her diaphragm to get pregnant. But, if a woman desperately wants a baby and her partner doesn't inquire about her methods of birth control or use any of his own — is it fair game for her to try and conceive? There's been a bit of buzz on the Internet as of late and we're curious about your opinion.


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vmruby vmruby 8 years
Absolutely not......No one has the right to do that to another human being and I'd be pissed to the gills if someone tried to pull that BS on me.IMO it's irresponsible and personally I'm horrified that anyone would think it's alright to bring an innocent child into the middle of something so unbelievably deceitful.
kikidawn kikidawn 8 years
Ok I just want to be clear on where I stand: deceit between couples (married or not is totally wrong). My fiancé and I just switched to NFP. Since it's new to us and I desperately want a child I very explicitly told him that if we wind up pregnant it will not be because I deceived him. But I took this question in the context of the linked article--> one night stands. It is the responsibility of both parties to make sure they are protected if they don't want a baby. The guy should not jet assume the girl is on BC. If he does assume and she's not on it and then winds up with a child then he should own up to being irresponsible. I didnt take this question to be about tricking a bf or husband to stay ... (haven't we already talked about that on here before?)
oh my gosh! i can't believe any woman would think this is okay.. that is the sign of a very insecure & controlling person! No.. it is NEVER okay to purposefully try to bring a child into the world without the consent of the man involved.. you're just asking for trouble! asking to raise a child with no father. if you are willing to do that to the man you are with, then there is a MAJOR lack of trust between the two of you & you will never have a good relationship.
anniems anniems 8 years
I can not believe how many people think it's ok to deceive their husband/partner. If a person is this selfish they are obviously not ready for a child.
cdelaney cdelaney 8 years
It is just wrong. Deceit and selfishness between a couple isn't exactly a step in the right direction, especially with bringing a life into the world. Besides, how will the child be affected? I know a few people who have gotten pregnant on purpose to get their guy to grow up or to commit--but to me it seems that they are desperate to "trap" their men, thinking that a baby will save their relationship. But sometimes, a boy is just a boy--doesn't matter if he's a dad or not--some boys simply do not and will not grow up.
SusanTeufel SusanTeufel 8 years
I think it's very wrong.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
No, deceiving your husband or boyfriend or whatever is completely and utterly wrong. If the couples knows they use a certain type of BC and the man or woman wants to deceive their partner by either not taking the pill, not using a condom/or tampering with a condom -- just to have a baby -- that is not right. You're on birth control to not get pregnant, if you want to be pregnant, that needs to be discussed. If your hubby or your wife does not want a baby, you need to accept it, because then it is definitely not the right time. PLUS, it's not as if it was just an accident where people take responsibility for what happened and have a baby. That is utter deception. And it WILL be found out, the other person will know. Women get the baby bug. That is TOTALLY understandable. What's not understandable is lying to the one you love because you are desperate.
dm8bri dm8bri 8 years
Where's the kid in this? Sure it's unfair to the man and creates drama for the woman, but what about the child?? How gross is that to bring a baby into the world with baggage the size of a man (and, for that matter, a woman)?
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