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Family Ties: Mother or Father Knows Best?

Co-parenting is nothing new, but when a couple juggles working full time and raising their children on their own, tag teaming becomes all the more important — or does it? For four years, my husband and I have taken care of our two kids and dual careers without enlisting childcare. While it's a dream in many ways — we've watched every milestone and been able to spend those crucial and fleeting first years with our kids, it's also a challenge.

The technical bugs like who needs to be where have been worked out, but things like laundry piles and wiping down the kitchen counters are more a matter of perspective. We have the same game plan, but play on different fields. When I'm with my son and daughter, they follow more of a routine, pick up after themselves and sit down for meals. Their daddy's agenda is completely different. The threesome spends every moment possible outside digging ditches in the dirt, climbing structures and engaging in activities that would likely give uncoordinated me a heart attack. Meals happen as they do and the same goes for cleaning up messes. But conflicting parenting styles aside, I know that splitting their time between us will make them more well rounded individuals. To find out an expert's opinion,


A recent segment on Good Morning America covered this issue. Moms and dads are typically different, but experts seem to think the contrasts have little effect on the children. It said:

"The bottom line for children is, 'I don't have just one and a half person who is nuts about me. I have two and they are kind of nuts about me in interesting ways. They bring out different parts of me,'" explains Kyle Pruett, M.D., a child psychiatrist and the author of "Father Need: Why Father Care Is as Essential as Mother Care for Your Child."

Do you and your partner's parenting styles differ?

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GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
Father knows best (because Mother said so). ;)
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 9 years
Honestly, I think that if it were just a single mom or dad then it really wouldn't matter. I think they both think the same if they aren't selfish. Two parents who are still together, my parents, have come to agree on some things, but honestly they are very good at how they have taken care and take care of my family. My family doesn't only include us children, but our cousins, aunts and uncles, and grandparents. My parents both know their strengths and weaknesses and know that the other can handle something if they don't feel like dealing with it. I knew that if I wanted something I could go to my mom or my dad depending on what it was, but if they found out then I didn't get it. Kids will do anything to trick their parents so they can get what they want, but if the parents don't contradict each other than the children will be fine.
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