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Family Ties: When Stepmother Treats Child As Her Own

Most mamas are fiercely protective of their children and things are no different in Tinseltown. Actress Bridget Moynahan is proud of her lil man, John Moynahan, who is the fruit of her former relationship with quarterback, Tom Brady. Brady's wife, model Gisele Bundchen, is often seen toting the tot around town and recently vocalized her motherly instincts toward the 19-month-old. She told Vanity Fair:

"I understand that he has a mom, and I respect that, but to me it’s not like because somebody else delivered him, that’s not my child. I feel it is, 100 percent. I want him to have a great relationship with his mom, because that’s important, but I love him the same way as if he were mine. I already feel like he’s my son, from the first day."

If someone said this about your biological child would you feel threatened that she was teetering on your territory or thrilled that another woman could love your youngster so much?


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NotVeryClever NotVeryClever 8 years
Mothers are naturally territorial, which is fine, but you can't have you cake and eat it too. You must love and treat my child like he is your own but you can never ever express that love publicly! You have to do what is best for your child even if it means putting your jealousy aside. My cousin is very good friends with the birth mother of her children. Her step-children call her mom and are cared for as if they are her children. In my case my step-daughters mother is a bit territorial so I make sure not to step on her toes.
cleo777 cleo777 8 years
Personally, I do not believe she meant any harm or ill will towards the birth mother. Gisele seems to love that boy a great deal and was simply expressing that.
ckeller825 ckeller825 8 years
I agree that Gisele only meant well. She also might have chosen the worst way to describe how she really feels b/c she IS brazilian & has somewhat of a language barrier, and sometimes it's hard for people from another country to explain things the way others would understand w/o offending them. My mom was like that.
HACB HACB 8 years
Doesn't anyone else think the way she expressed herself could be a language problem? I know she speaks English well but it's not like it's her first language. I'd prefer to think the sentiment she expressed came from a pure place in her heart and Bridget would appreciate that Giselle cares so deeply for her son.
RenSis RenSis 8 years
That exact comment would have brought fire to my eyes! "it’s not like because somebody else delivered him, that’s not my child" ---> WOW!!! That's exactly what it means! After 9 months of carrying a child, giving birth to, and raising that child, no one else could come even slightly close to being it's mother! That love can't be matched! I'm sure that Gisele meant nothing but the best but if she ever has a child of her own she'll understand how hurtful and unsettling a comment like that could be!
janagoldhill janagoldhill 8 years
gisele is saying this as a woman who has never been pregnant of had children. she is naive, and overly bold in saying the things she did, especially knowing the world could read this and bridget would see or hear this through the grapevine. i understand what she was trying to express, but as a mother i would still be very offended and hurt if someone was as possessive as this toward my child.
PinkUnicorn PinkUnicorn 8 years
I'm sure Gisele meant well, but it came out very, very wrong. I would be p*ssed if I was certainly doesn't help that Tom was cheating on Bridget with Gisele while she was pregnant...
scarlett-ophelia scarlett-ophelia 8 years
My boyfriend of 2 years has a little girl. Although his relationship with his ex is strained at best, they are both wonderful parents. His ex is a fantastic mom and I never, ever want her to feel as if I am trying to step in on that roll. I had so much anxiety over this in the earlier stages of our relationship that I would have constant dreams about his daughter and her mom. While I understand what Gisele is trying to express, I don't think the wording of her sentiments is appropriate. I hope to marry my bf and be family to his daughter, but I understand that I am not her mom. I think it would be disrespectful for me to ever try and take that role. I have my own unique relationship with the little one and that's good enough for me!
Kimpossible Kimpossible 8 years
When I was married to my first husband, I had 3 stepsons. And we had primary custody, their mother had visitation. I absolutely loved those boys like they were my own children. I completely understand where Giselle is coming from on this.
macgirl macgirl 8 years
I'm actually living this situation right now. For the first two years it was really hard. I felt hurt and disrespected at every turn. She even tried to out do me in my mom jobs (who prepares valentines cards in the beginning of January?). I went mama bear and it just got worse. Finally I just got to the point where I needed to pick my battles. She adores my son, would I want that to be different? No. I know women who despise their step children and it is always so sad. If I have to share my child, I would much rather it be with another loving home that I trust. Not everyone has that comfort when their child isn't under their roof.
plus_2_kid plus_2_kid 8 years
Anonymous - Tom Brady & Bridget broke up before he met Gisele. Nobody did any stealing. Stop being so dramatic.
Moms Moms 8 years
I think Gisele meant well with this comment and as a mom, I would much prefer to have my children surrounded by loving family members and extended family members than those that don't treat them well. It's also clear in the pictures that John likes his stepmother. If he's happy, nothing else really matters.
Jinx Jinx 8 years
I think she meant well too, and its great they all get along. I think she should have just said I love him very much, he is my husband's son, but to say she feels like its her child from the beginning is a bit much. It would cause me to be defensive.
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