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Mommy Dearest: Family Vacation Interferes With School

Mommy Dearest,

My husband's parents' 50th anniversary is coming up in December and they offered to take the entire family on a trip to celebrate. They selected a cruise that does not return until the 5th of January. While the trip works for the rest of the family, it means my preschooler and kindergartener will miss the first two days back to school after Winter break. My mother-in-law says that I shouldn't worry because the children are young. Though I am grateful for the vacation, I am wary of the kids missing class. Should we skip the trip?

– Cruisin' in Lieu of School Mama

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Cruisin' in Lieu of School Mama,

It's your in-laws' 50th anniversary — a once in a lifetime event that your children are lucky enough to be a part of— I say take them on the trip and don't worry about the two days of missed class. While the vacation is a generous offer, the experience is one your kiddos will always remember and likely means a great deal to your husband's parents. Prior to leaving, sit down with your children's teachers, explain the situation and see if any assignments need to be completed.

– Mommy Dearest

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karlotta karlotta 7 years
I don't think anything in the world should ever prevent you from missing a day of vacation, especially school or work! WHO CARES??
cheersdarlin916 cheersdarlin916 7 years
I try to work around school but when we went to Hawaii my son did have to miss a few days. We took a majority of the vacation over spring break but the cruise did not finish until 2 days into the start of school and I just let the school know in advance and it was no big deal to make up the work. Also, he does not miss much school during the year. He is rarely sick and I think this helps. We are not abusing the privilege of taking days off.
nicole121482 nicole121482 7 years
Not a big deal at all! There are some things that can't be learned in the classroom, like the value of family! Your kids are young...2 days is no sweat! I wouldn't even think twice about it...
gidigirl gidigirl 7 years
Are you looking for an excuse to skip the trip?
commonsense102 commonsense102 7 years
Sounds like this mommy may have some mental problems. Clearly an intelligent and fully functioning person would never have to ask this type of question. Something tells me there are bigger problems going on.
MissSushi MissSushi 7 years
I don't think people should put off vacations just because they happen to overlap any school days. Pretty much everyone in the service industry of any sort isnt going to be able to take vacation during the summer months, period. My husband actually has blackout days and they hassle them for sick time, as I did when i worked in a call center. That being said, in this instance its the first two days back after a long break for elementary aged children... they aren't going to be doing anything mind blowing that they can't miss out on. We took vacations during the school year all the time, and most of the time the teachers gave us preplanned worksheet type work to do while we were gone. To Sassy.. why would they ask for the work now if they arent going on vacation for months..? Thats pretty odd and doesnt really make any sense.
clarabelle98 clarabelle98 7 years
sassy, I completely hear your angst as a teacher and I feel for you. That said, I work in an industry that between the months of April and September vacations are a huge NO NO. It doesn't happen. So, when we want a vacation the kids have to miss school. BUT. I ALWAYS notify the school WEEKS in advance that they will have those unexcused absences, and make it the kids' responsibility to get any critical work they will need. I do realize the strain it puts on the teachers however, and I also make sure that the boys bring back gifts for each and every teacher. Nothing major, just our way of saying "Hey, you're appreciated."
sassy_chick sassy_chick 7 years
Fine at that age, but it's a nightmare when they're older. As a teacher, I've had parents say "I'm taking them on a cruise in February so I'll need the work for the week right now." ARE YOU KIDDING????? First of all, I'm not going to drop everything I'm teaching now to run off a week's worth of stuff for your kid. Second, ask in advance for the work they will need to make up. Third, plan your vacations around school! I teach fifth grade and it DOES make a difference when they miss. Ok, off the soapbox. K or Pre-K, no problem. Older, keep them in!
melinda19 melinda19 7 years
WHAT?? Come on, what will they miss coloring, naptime and snack ?? Please don't become a helicopter parent. Relax spend this time with your family and they will grow up to be just great.
babysugar babysugar 7 years
Ditto Chouette4U and Mommy Dearest! Bummer to miss school but I bet they could learn a thing or two on this family vacation.
PinkUnicorn PinkUnicorn 7 years
I can't believe someone would be agonizing over a couple of missed school days for any aged children, let alone a preschooler and a kindergartner! My parents pulled my brother and I out of school for vacations quite a lot when I was growing up, and it had absolutely no impact on my grades. I took the work with me, and have so many wonderful memories of family vacations. I will do the same for my children. I believe the memories and experiences they will have on vacations are far more valuable than sitting in a classroom.
Chouette4u Chouette4u 7 years
Two days of missed school for a preschooler and kindergartner? Definitely no big deal.
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