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Mommy Dearest: Letting the Nanny Go

Mommy Dearest,

It is with deep regret that I am having to let my nanny go. She has become an integral part of our family in the last five years and I am dreading telling her that we will not need her to tend to our children anymore. While I could certainly use her help around the house and with the kids, I was recently laid off and my youngest child is starting school this Fall. With an empty house and one income lost, I am having a hard time justifying her salary. I know she will understand my predicament, but I want to make sure I am doing her the best service possible.

– Pink Slip Mommy

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Pink Slip Mommy,

It appears you have been blessed with a wonderful person to help you tend to your family for the past five years. While it may be tough to let her go, she will probably understand your situation and may even be expecting the bad news. There are a few ways you can make this easier on the both of you. First, give her plenty of notice and offer to help her find another job by referring her to friends and writing her letters of recommendation. Second, ask her if she would still like to babysit on occasion for date nights here or there so she can maintain the relationship with the family. Last, have a little "last day" party in her honor so the family can celebrate and show her how much she is loved and respected.

—Mommy Dearest

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lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
we had a similar situation 2 years ago with 2 young women we had that helped care for our severely autistic daughter. our needs changed and while the care givers were aware of what was happening, i had to say something formally for them to actually "get it". i helped each of them get jobs, and because of their experience with my daughter they were able to get other jobs (with special needs children) immediately. but, had to say good -bye to them a little sooner than i wanted (2 and 3 weeks) because their new jobs started before or situation changed. i feel good about how things ended. we didn't have a party when they left, but we gave then each a gift certificate to a local salon.
Smacks83 Smacks83 7 years
Yeah, I second the little "bonus" remark. It will def. help soften the blow.
Zivanod Zivanod 7 years
That's good advice. It will be hard though as having an employee inside the house really does blur that employee/employer relationship that an office setting certainly does not have.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
that's good advice. make it clear that you would give her a glowing recommendation / reference whenever possible and if possible, give her a little parting bonus
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