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First versus Second Deliveries

Why Didn't Anybody Tell Me: Second Delivery Isn't Easier

You would think that with experience comes wisdom but that isn't always the case. When I was pregnant with my first child, I read every book and email newsletter that came my way, spoke with friends about their delivery experiences and both mentally and physically prepared for the big day. When I received word at my 39-week appointment that my baby was in a frank breech position, and the doctor wanted to schedule a c-section the next morning to remove him, I took it with stride – barely flinching as I walked into the operating room.

Fast forward three-and-a-half years, and you would have thought a completely different woman was sitting there. Nine months pregnant with number two, I hadn't cracked opened a single pregnancy book as I sat at the hospital awaiting blood work the day before my scheduled c-section for baby number two. Rather than the calm and collected woman I was with my first, waves of panic set in. The whole "been there, done that" mentality that I had trusted to get me through a second delivery took a back seat to memories of what I was about to endure, fear of the upheaval I was about to impart on my first born and thoughts that I didn't know what I was getting myself into. Friends told me it was just a case of the jitters, but I now truly believe that sometimes the fear of the unknown is more comforting than knowing what awaits you.

Did you have a similar experience with your second child?

alliegirl4 alliegirl4 7 years
i actually have a question.. i am 32 weeks pregnant with my second child (its a boy!) i have been having contractions regularly and i went to L&D 2 days in a row cuz of it.. they told me my contractions were 2-3 min. apart, and they gave me a shot and sent me home both nights.. however my cervix hasnt changed any? is that normal.. im still having contractions.. my first child (a girl) was born at 36wks 6days and i went into early labor with her.. about 3 times.. and was put on bedrest.. so i guess the question is how long am i going to have to experience these contractions until my cervix starts to change some? how long do you think it could be?
GMarie GMarie 7 years
I just had a second c-section two weeks ago. Because my first was an "emergency" after a 56 hour long failed induction, I was in a daze. This time, I was fully aware and, when it came down to the moment I had to walk into the operating room, I was terrified beyond all reason. I got through it and am now dealing with the physical healing and the hormone hangover - the boohoos, the anxiety, the worry about my 3 year old son...I know it will all pass and that what will remain is my joy in my two beautiful children and my wonderful husband, but I'd definitely say that there's nothing "easy" about a c-section, no matter what the circumstances!
MissSushi MissSushi 7 years
My mother had a much harder time with her 2nd and a lot more complications like the cord around her neck. pushing was exhausting and harder, and took longer. I had a MUCH easier time this time around. I was mentally prepared, and other then the fears about an induction going wrong, i was excited and not nervous. I had to be induced 3 weeks early because of preeclampsia, but i had a week notice. We were monitoring the signs closely and trying to hit the 37 week mark. Labor and delivery went much smoother, my epidural actually took this time, and he didnt give me an epi, which im eternally grateful for. The first time around i went into labor naturally and I had spent so much time obsessing over pregnancy stuff that i was totally calm and peaceful - until i went into labor. Then I started to get more and more anxious and panicky feeling. It also went horribly and my recovery was terrible, so there you go lol. My only true unresolved worry was whether I could handle two of them. I was so stressed at the end of the pregnancy because of the complications, lack of sleep, soreness, and constant sicknesses.
Spiderlove Spiderlove 7 years
My second was FAR harder than my first! The epidural didn't take, and I felt EVERYTHING. (With my son, my first, I had the epidural and it was easy as pie. I could not have asked for an easier birth!) I always tell my daughter that she was a much harder birth, but worth it a million times over! :)
jenni5 jenni5 7 years
My 2nd was 100x better than the 1st. 20 minutes of pushing and he was out. I was walking around an hour after and I didn't have a million stitches from the episiotomy. But I guess anything can happen with any pregnancy.
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