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Five More Rude Things Mothers Do

The other day I wrote about the five rude things mothers do — most of which are unintentional and come with having kids and very hectic lives. Our readers commented with some of their own mama pet peeves, but many were inconsiderate things all people do. So I've compiled one more list of mum-specific offenses.

  • Shouting Out in Public: Hitting the mall for a shopping stroll changes when tots are in tow. Mums who never said boo before baby suddenly find themselves frantically shouting safety precautions, "Joey, do NOT step on that escalator — you will fall!" or "OMG! Where's Hannah? She was just right next to me. HANNAH? HANNAH?"
  • The Stroller Rollover: Size does matter when it comes to strollers, and since stores have aisles that barely accommodate them, it's impossible for a mama to see every foot or knee cap that is in the way when she swings the buggy around to make an exit. Unfortunately and unintentionally, a stranger's toe occasionally falls victim to the rubber wheel.

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  • Talk, Talk, Talk About Their Tots: Once a woman has kids, they inevitably become the topic of chit chat. What can possibly top having created human beings?
  • Hold Up the Line: Whether mom's in the bathroom stall or the dressing room, peeing and slipping into clothes with an entourage takes a bit longer — especially when the kiddos expect to be entertained.
  • Are Tardy: Getting out the door suddenly takes a little or a lot longer. Last-minute diaper blowouts, spit-up stains, and tot tantrums can set mamas back no matter how much time they've allotted.

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hausfrau hausfrau 8 years
I think 90% is pretty optimistic. I bet its closer to 60%.
SuzieQ3417 SuzieQ3417 8 years
Wow...these comments have taken a decidedly negative tone. I would just like to say that, although I don't have kids (yet), it's a lot easier to remember the few bad parents who can't control their kids than all of great parents who teach manners and respect for others. I bet if we all looked around a restaurant or grocery store and actually observed all of the families, we would see that 90% (or more!) of the kids are well behaved. But it's a lot easier to remember that brat who disrupts your whole meal, isn't it? I always think of this when you hear people complain about having to board a plane where someone is bringing a baby. You can just see people roll their eyes sometimes thinking about how awful the flight will be because some infant/toddler will be screaming the whole time - but actually, most babies and kids are pretty quiet on planes...so quiet that we forget they're even there unless we're sitting right next to them. I think most parents are doing a great job, and that sometimes even the most well-behaved kid will have a meltdown that can't be controlled. Maybe instead of complaining about the few rotten apples, we should be praising the majority who are raising great kids.
CoralAmber CoralAmber 8 years
I don't like it when I'm at a restaurant at 9 or 10 at night and someone comes in with their kids. The kids are tired and cranky and should be in bed. Don't force them to hang out in a restaurant for over an hour just so you can eat out. Get some take out and get your kids to bed. Most of the time I think parents are just preoccupied and don't notice everything. One time when I was out to eat a lady had her baby with her in the stroller. When she went to feed the baby she took a coaster it was playing with out of it's hand. The kid, no longer distracted, started getting fussy and crying. After a few minutes I started shaking a cup with crayons in it to make a odd noise to distract her. It totally did the trick and the mom was thanking me profusely. All she had to do was pay attention to why the baby was upset and let the kid play with a coaster while she fed it.
hausfrau hausfrau 8 years
Amen Mich! On a side note, whenever I see a parent actually acknowledge the bad behavior and try to discipline their kid I just want to run up to them and say GOOD JOB!!! But I think they might think I'm being obnoxious so I don't.... :)
sham28 sham28 8 years
I was waiting to order salad off of the food line at a cafe and there was a 6-7 year old little girl and her mother behind me- the girl had some sort of screeching light- up ball that really was the loudest, most high- pitched thing I'd ever heard! The second the noise stopped she would smack it against something again to make it start screaming AGAIN. Her mom was just texting someone and not paying any attention, I guess she had blocked out the noise. I even fake coughed really loudly to make sure she wasn't deaf, she looked up so she wasn't. After 4 rounds of screeching I finally burst out with "OKAY SWEETIE can this please be the last time?" And her mom said "yeah, Sarah, put it away." I was shocked that she didn't seem concerned with how F- ing annoying her child was being! I don't blame the kid in that scenario, I blame the parent/ parenting.
Michelann Michelann 8 years
When children are running wild or screaming or generally acting out in a store, restaurant, or other public place, I think the problem is not the child itself (who is just being a kid, after all) but the parents who do nothing to control it. Obviously these things are going to happen, and most parents are apologetic and do what they can not to inconvenience or annoy other people. That is not rude, that is just life. But when a parent completely ignores their child while they run through the aisles of the grocery store or scream at the top of their lungs in a restaurant, that is rude.
momma-tikita momma-tikita 8 years
"don't breed"? ouch. I hope when you have kids they are saints. Before my daughter turned three she was an "angel". As soon as she got her own voice she became more vocal, confused, frustrated, annoyed, and every other emotion you can name. That's kids for you... I'm sure every parent here teaches their kids how to act when in a public place but I know for a fact that not every kid is going to behave and listen...and there are DEFINETLY times where we just give up for the moment to NOT get a headache. What's with the word "hate" too? I can't believe how much its being used in a post about mothers and kids!!! Also being late and using the kid as an excuse really depends on the person. I'm the type that sucks at time management and my son LOVES to run around the house naked while I TRY to dress him. So I confess I'm one...I give props to the mothers who make it to everything on time :)
Chouette4u Chouette4u 8 years
Jeez, my daughter is pretty well behaved so far (knock on wood), but there are some kids who are just going to be "spirited" or naughty sometimes no matter how they are parented. Some of these kids have autism or other disorders, but some kids are just "normal" handfuls. I guess you could argue that if you beat your kid whenever they whine or have a fit they'll stop doing it, but that's also child abuse. Part of being a human is living among other humans, and some of them are kids, and some of them occasionally misbehave for whatever reason. And I guess we could all "stop breeding" and we wouldn't have that problem anymore.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
1-so you would have been less rude if you had known my daughter had autism? doubt it. 2-and yes, my 3 kids were all with me. all children need to eat. 3-not sure how telling the cashier to address the issue of candy at eye level for children was rude to the cashier, but whatever. 4-grocery stores are trying to rip off parents by placing items like kid videos, balloons and candy where you are REQUIRED to pay for your items. they are hoping that parents will be embarassed into buying the items rather than have their kid pitch a fit. anyone who has a kid over 3 knows that at some point YOU KID is going to be the one pitching a fit. so if grocery stores want to play that game i'll play too :kiss: with my own rules. put that crap somewhere else.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 8 years
ITA with you Choutte, I always started things earlier too (preparing my son and all) when I'm due somewhere. Having a kid isn't exactly an excuse for being late all the time. But I don't know if it's rude or not, but when my son got sick, all plans of getting-together (with other families) is off-the-table. For example, this weekend we're going to go see the Peonies show but my son has been having this high fever and it seems that he's going down with a cold for the next few days. I'd probably have to cancel the plan tomorrow if he's not doing too well. Yeah, canceling plans due to unexpected circumstances sux especially when we've planned for it for a few weeks already. :(
goldiecar goldiecar 8 years
I'm sorry, but unless you actually have spent time with any children who have a disorder of ANY kind... Don't judge. Kids who have sensory disorders, autism on any part of the spectrum or mental disabilities do NOT think as a "normal" kid does. They do not always understand the social norms of general society. This is seriously why we need to go back to registering for comments!!
schnappycat schnappycat 8 years
I totally agree with Chouette. I have a toddler and pride myself on always being on time or early (and I always have, child or not). There is very little excuse for ever being late, even with a child. You just have to plan well and understand that extra time is needed. I hate late people in general and don't really care what their excuses are. It's rude to make other people wait because you are a poor planner.
sunnybee2009 sunnybee2009 8 years
I think its important to keep your kids under control in places like restaurant's. When I had my daughter I said to myself I will not let myself become on of those mothers who lets their kids run around restaurant's and cause havoc, i think it not only makes you look bad; but its not fair on other people trying to enjoy their meals. I go out to enjoy my food and spend time with my friends or family not to have to put up with kids running round my feet screaming and shouting. I have taken my daughter out of a restaurant and gone home because she was causing havoc, simply because I felt it wasn't fair for the other people in the restaurant. However I do feel, i have become a bit ruder in terms of bumping into people and running over people with my buggy, I never do it on purpose its always an accident, but it doesn't help when people just get in your way or are rude about when you accidentally run over them. I've had once experience where i accidentally bumped into a man with my pram and the man proceeded to give a tirade of abuse of how he came out to get away from people like me who think they can just shove people out of the way. I apologized to him obviously but i was so fuming by the time i got out of the supermarket anyone who got in my way had to watch out. Sometime i think people just think we run into them on purpose, most of time for me its because I'm too busy trying to either keep my daughter occupied or I'm trying to do my shopping not purposely run people down in the supermarket aisles.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
well here's a surprise for all of you "teach your kids manners" people. autistic kids have to eat too! my oldest is severely autistic and still has zero understanding of other people's property at age 11. she obviously doesn't go out to eat with us, but when she was too young for school she did go to the grocery store with me. she was attracted by bright shiney things, like candy wrappers and balloons. the ploy of having candy at eye level for kids is obvious. i couldn't hold both of her hands and unload the shopping cart or pay. and even though it was obvious that i was struggling with her i NEVER once had an offer of "help out to the car". but i did have lots of stares and rude comments like yours. guess it's easier to pass judgment than offer kindness. just like it's easier to say what you would do in a situation you've never been in.
Akpril Akpril 8 years
I agree, we have to keep an eye on our kids and expect decent behavior. I remember when I was little and those Hallmark stores started opening my mom would always tell me to keep my hands in my pockets before we entered. I could look as long as I wanted, but I wasn't allowed to touch anything. I realized a few years ago that when I'm in an expensive store I still tend to keep my hands in my pockets! She taught me well!
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