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Governor Mark Sanford Did Not Vow to Stay Faithful

Could You Wed a Man Who Wouldn't Forsake All Others?

"I do... err, I will... if we could just cross that one tiny little line out." The rules of a marriage vary from couple to couple, but there are a few standards that are common to most committed people. One of them is fidelity. When saying their wedding vows, husbands and wives often swear to love, honor and cherish each other as well as forsaking all others. But for some, it's not an option.

In her interview with Barbara Walters set to air tonight, South Carolina's First Lady Jenny Sanford spills the details of her marital vows that have many wondering if she got what she signed up for when she married her husband. She declares that prior to their wedding, Mark Sanford said that he would not vow to "forsake all others." She said:

It bothered me to some extent, but ... we were very young, we were in love... I questioned it, but I got past it ... along with other doubts that I had.

Some people expect cheating in their marriages and others even welcome it. Could you put a ring on your finger for a man who couldn't fully commit to you, especially if kids were in your future?


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janneth janneth 7 years
Lousy governor, lousy husband and father.
Lyv Lyv 7 years
Uh, yeah. In fact I'm 90% sure I'll have an open marriage myself. (:
Studio16 Studio16 7 years
I'm not going to be one to jump to conclusions. I don't know why it was so important to him that he not vow to forsake all others. I can see why a woman would not want to vow to obey, but why wouldn't you vow to be faithful? But like I said, I'm not going to jump to conclusions, maybe he was confused about the line or thought it was silly. They're just wedding vows. You have to know the person before you get married. You have to have faith that he won't cheat. Saying he'll forsake all others doesn't mean he will, just like not saying it doesn't mean he won't. It's a tradition, not a magic charm. If when I got married, my husband said he didn't say that part, I would ask him why. And then I would make sure to talk about cheating with him, and if he began to display signs of viewing marriage as a game or what have you, I'd be like, "OK, maybe this isn't the marriage for me."
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
Saying it doesn't make it so. Many people who say they won't cheat: do cheat. You need to have faith in the person, not the words someone else wrote that your partner repeated. Having said that, people change over time. Before you are married you probably are not use to putting other people first. Hopefully you mature over time.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
It depends. If it was an open relationship then I don't mind, but otherwise it doesn't sound like it would be consensual.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
"Honey, just a heads up.. I'm probably going to cheat on you, and I don't want to break my vows... so, yeah, do you have any white out?"
FrankiLee FrankiLee 7 years
I agree with skigurl. If the guy admits he's probably going to cheat...chances are things aren't going to turn out very well. I could never marry someone like that.
esweet esweet 7 years
I can't believe he had the nerve to even say something like that. What a jerk...and what a HUGE red flag!
jenni5 jenni5 7 years
Uh that should have been a HUGE red flag to her. Agree with skigurl...she shouldn't be surprised he cheated.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
NO WAY!! if, at the time of marriage, a guy can't commit to you and promise not to cheat on you, then WHY would you marry him in the first place?!?!?! holy man, she is one stupid lady (sorry, i know that sounds harsh but you can't be surprised he cheated on you when he told you flat out before you got married that he can't promise he won't).... if someone tells you who they are, BELIEVE THEM
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