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How Do You Reward Your Child?

Many parents reward their children monetarily for deeds well done. For some, a high scoring report card may warrant a wad of cash or a shopping trip while others may delight in dinner with the family or a movie night.

Shiny new gifts can sometimes be exciting, but what some children crave more than anything is attention and affection. I will certainly do my fair share of material spoiling, but the moments that I look forward to more than anything are family celebrations that require little cash and lots of love.

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Sarana Sarana 8 years
I only got money for my rapport card that came out 3 or 4 times a year and that was about 2 dollars per time.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
nothing for grades because they are expected to do their best and the grade does not always reflect that. if they get a "c" but tried their hardest i'm fine with it. if they get a "b" but didn't really try i have a problem with that. long waits for their sisters medical appointments get a reward of some kind, later bedtime on the weekend, bowl of ice cream maybe.
kikidawn kikidawn 8 years
... If only I could get $$ for my grades now .... I'm a broke college student ;)
Greggie Greggie 8 years
I agree it depends on the kid. I definitely did better working for money per A, but it's not a given that I'd do it for my kids. I'm just not against it either.
PiNkY-PiNk PiNkY-PiNk 8 years
my dad always tried to do the pay per grade thing but he never came through. but i turned out okay! lol :) i don't have any kids right now but i'd like to go the dinner, movie, etc route. but i'm not sure if that would only work when they're younger.
kikidawn kikidawn 8 years
"I have no problem paying per grade in high school." That reminds me of my boyfriend's dad's incentives. He'd pay $20 for every "A" and take away $40 for every "B"... and for "C"s he didn't get anything. (oh and for the record J was never in the situation where he would have to pay his dad --- 2 Bs & 1 A) Me? I made straight "A"s and didn't get anything. lol ... My parents did things a little different. They always praised my work, but I didn't get allowance for doing chores or getting certain grades. My parents paid for all my stuff and I was just expected to do the other stuff (chores, good grades). The two were never one for the other ... or correlated in any way. For our kids? I have no idea how we're going to do it. Probably a mix of the two. I personally think it just depends on the kid. I am very intrinsically motivated ... some people are not. So if our kids are not then we'll do accordingly. :)
Greggie Greggie 8 years
It depends on the situation. Right now we have a "contract" rewarding good weekly school reports with an activity of his choice. A movie, dinner, the museum, etc. At the moment we don't reward them with cash but they're 8 and 5. I have no problem paying per grade in high school.
psterling psterling 8 years
My parents always rewarded me with intangible things when I was little like a late bedtime or the occasional soda with dinner instead of milk. When I was older the only monetary incentive my parents gave was that they'd match every dollar I saved to buy my first car. I think rewarding your kids with cash keeps them motivated for the wrong reasons but I guess in the end, whatever keeps them motivated...
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