Cosleeping can be a very hot topic among parents, and for many families, deciding to cosleep is the choice that's right for them. While they view it as the best thing for their children, an unintended consequence is that it can be difficult to keep the romance alive with your partner. After all, it's hard to feel sexy when you have a squirmy toddler kicking you in the sides.
Sex, of course, is an integral part of a relationship and even more important when the family has children. Alicia Sinclair, sex educator and CEO of Le Wand and The Cowgirl, confirms that part of keeping relationships strong is finding time for each other. "Don't forget that as important as parenting is, intimacy and connection are incredibly important to maintaining a long-term, healthy relationship," she explained to POPSUGAR. "They're especially important when seeking to maintain a healthy sexual relationship as well." So, how can you make time for both your kids and your partner?
Just . . . work at it. "If you and your partner are cosleeping with your child, additional effort, planning, and commitment goes a long way to keep the connection and passion alive in your very important romantic relationship," Sinclair said. "Don't expect it to just happen — it will take work, and that's OK."
2. Step Outside the Bedroom
Use this opportunity to become more adventurous in your sex life! "If the bedroom was once your sexy love shack, but has now become a sleepover party for three, it might be time to move sex to another room," advises Sinclair. "Take advantage of all the possible spots in your home that you never appreciated before, like the kitchen for hot counter sex, the bathroom for shower sex, or make the sofa your new love nest."
3. Make a Schedule
It might sound boring, but scheduling sex can be extremely exciting and satisfying. "A scheduled event allows each partner to clear their calendar, plan sexy things ahead, experience some build up beforehand, and reserve energy so they can fully focus on each other when the time comes," Sinclair said.