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I Just Want to Have One Child

Tell Me Why?

This question was submitted from an anonymous member in our A Place to Vent group.

Tell me why do some of my family members hound me about having another child? I feel fine with the one child I already have and feel there is no need for another one. To me raising a child is a very hard thing to do and I'm not built for more than one child of my own. They tell me that my daughter needs a sister or brother, but her father has eight other children and if
she needs a sister or brother she can use one of them. I just want them to leave me alone and if they want 100 babies go head I'm fine with the one I have. Now am I wrong for being fine with just having one child?

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Aunt-Tee Aunt-Tee 7 years
I find it so funny how complete strangers (or even family and friends!) have the right to comment on how many children you do or don't have. For example, my sister has a large family and is constantly being asked how many children she has and she tells them that she has five daughters here on earth and one daughter waiting for her in Heaven. That inevitably brings on the comment, "Don't you know how that happens?" She has a great handful of responses but my personal favorite is, "Well, we didn't but we just separated our toothbrushes, so it shouldn't happen again." (Just for the record, that "you just keep trying for a boy comment is also irritating!) I know this example is the complete opposite to your situation but I get really annoyed when people start acting like they have the right to control how many children a woman or family decides to have. You enjoy your only child!
starbucks2 starbucks2 7 years
Even when I was pregnant with my first, people were asking me when I was planning the second one! I was told to buy the pram gender neutral so if I had a boy after that I could still use it! Hello? Whoever said I wanted a second child? And why do people feel the need to tell you it's the worst thing ever for you child to grow up without siblings? She has cousins and lots of children in the neighborhood to play with. She won't be a spoiled brat, just because she's an only child! So, no you are not wrong. If you are happy with what you have, tell your family that!
runningesq runningesq 7 years
No, of course you aren't wrong. And you may want to find something snappy to say to shut them up.
jenni5 jenni5 7 years
I have found that once you have children nobody keeps their comments to themselves! It's like they have received a license to say anything! The only thing you can do is explain to them that you are not interested in having any more children. Period. Then change the topic of discussion to something annoyingly personal to them!
Hello890 Hello890 7 years
No, you are not wrong. Having another baby just so your child can have a sibling is a terrible reason to have another kid. You are bringing another human being into the world, not purchasing a toy for your kid!
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