Every night for the past week, I've turned on the same Netflix episode only to fall asleep 15 minutes in. I nodded off in the car (passenger side, don't worry!) both to and from my kid's doctor appointment, and I'm not going to lie: I sat down and closed my eyes in the shower the other day. I'm just. So. Tired.
Which is why, if I had more energy, I'd give a standing ovation to the mom in this Facebook photo shared by writer Glennon Doyle. She was (barely) in attendance at their kids' soccer game and is nothing short of a national treasure.
Whilst the other parents stood loudly and earnestly and concernedly on the sidelines: this mother laid her body down on the ground, her head on her purse, and her blanket over her face — and napped.
Her entire existence said: I am showing up for my kid. But I'm not gonna pretend I'm not exhausted about it.
Please understand that periodically — when the sideline yelled and woke her from her warrior sleep — she would raise that little thumb of hers and say: 'Yay.' And then she'd go back to sleep. I love her. She is a cultural icon for our time.
Sure, the moms who show up, hopped up on double-shot espressos and ready to cheer motivating truisms with intention, are also to be commended. Of course. It's hard to be "on" all the time, to be "present" and to do all the "right" things for our kids.
But I'd venture to say it's just as hard, if not harder, to show up and sleep. OK, OK — I can attest that falling asleep on wet grass is no problem for a sleep-deprived mama, but what's hard here is to care enough about one's own state of body and mind to practice some legit self-care in the face of likely judgment from every single other parent on the sidelines. In 2018, that takes guts.
"Here's to women who freaking rest when we're tired. May we know them. May we raise them. May we be them," Glennon concluded. "I would like to formally nominate this hero as the president elect of our Women Who Have Run Out of Effs to Give Club. There will be no meetings."
That hour will be used for falling asleep while doing the bedtime routine.