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Mommy Dearest: Gifts For Doctor and Delivery Nurses?

Mommy Dearest,

I am 30 weeks pregnant and a friend asked me what I plan to buy for the doctor and nurses that deliver my baby. I hadn't thought about getting them anything. She bought cigars for the doctor and flowers for the nurses that delivered her babies and said it's customary to give gifts. Is this true?

—To Give or Not to Give

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To Give or Not to Give,

I don't think giving medical professionals presents is customary though you should do what you feel is appropriate. I was induced so several nurses and doctors assisted in the hours leading up to my delivery. I thanked the staff verbally and wrote them a note but didn't as a new mom felt compelled to hit the mall and purchase a slew of presents as we, and our insurance company paid a hefty hospital bill. I do know women who have left the flowers they received for the nurses or presented someone who stood out during their stay with a box of candy. As far as cigars that strikes me as a slightly inappropriate gift to give a health professional but to each their own.

— Mommy Dearest

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miss_priss miss_priss 9 years
I brought cookies in for the nurse staff before I delivered my son. I got excellent care, and every nurse was very appreciative!
wonderwoman80 wonderwoman80 9 years
My nurses were incredible my entire stay and I sent a fruit basket to the maternity floor as a "thank you" as well as sent personal notes. I think they always appreciate healthy snacks while on their shifts...
SnickersBar SnickersBar 9 years
I absolutely loved all my nurses at the hospital I gave birth at! My situation was different in that I had kidney stones throughout my pregnancy and was in and out of the hospital frequently, always staying on the maternity floor. By the time I actually gave birth I felt right at home ... lol. Seriously, though, they were all amazing and helped me throuth a very difficult pregnancy. I could not wait to give them all a token of my appreciation and hand delivered (with my 2 week old son in tow) a tray of goodies for them all to enjoy.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
i agree with greggie, sometimes gifts are just annoying tokens you have to find something to do with...that's why food is often appreciated!
MissSushi MissSushi 9 years
I probably wouldnt have done it, even if I had had nice nurses. THe nurses at my hospital were short, rude and extremely abrupt and ended up hurting me during all examinations. Though, I agree with the NICU comment. My daugther was in the NICU for 2 weeks before she stabilized and was able to come home and her NICU night nurse was SUCH a sweetheart. She took the time to explain EVERYTHING to us when the NICU doctor, who we never even saw, just spoke to, and my doctor wouldnt explain anything to us.
HeidiMD HeidiMD 9 years
It's certainly not expected, but it is always appreciated.
katedavis katedavis 9 years
My L&D nurse was AMAZING. She was like a doula. I bought her a bottle of wine after, but I haven't given it to her (17 months later)!!! I never find myself at that hospital. When I have my next kid I'll pack the wine for her in my hospital bag. :)
milosmommy milosmommy 9 years
We didn't give gifts to the L&D nurses or my doc, but we did bring pastries to the NICU nurses for when my son had a 2 week stay after he was born. We were scared he was going to die and they not only helped heal him, but helped calm us as well. So I made sure to bring something for them.
bluepuppybites bluepuppybites 9 years
I should have given my nurse something. I had a panic attack in the middle of pushing. The nurse and my Dr. later told my mom that they wanted to slap some sense into me, I guess I was a little crazy.
AnaKay AnaKay 9 years
I am a L&D Nurse, and while many patients bring or send gifts our hospital policy states that we are not supposed to accept gifts (unprofessional). I personally prefer a short note and a picture of the baby a couple months later, once their lives are getting back to "normal" and can reflect on their experience.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
They won't let us send anything to the hospital for the nurses, which is the only way to get to them. But I did make sure I thanked them all profusely because they were wonderful. My doctor gets a thank-you card, but I always feel like doing more just gives him one more thing has to store or display. *lol*
meandtheo meandtheo 9 years
i sent my nurse a thank you gift after the birth of my daughter. she was amazing and stayed the entire 17 hours of my delivery...i saw the doctor (not my doctor another from the practice) for a total of about 30 minutes and then for delivery...i didn't think that merited a gift. i think it is up to you and not something that is now mandatory, like tipping your stylist!
skigurl skigurl 9 years
the gift pictured is a nice idea - it's an edible arrangement - flowers crafted out of fruit, sometimes with chocolate, as well. it's something everyone can share, and is a simple token, which can be accompanied with a note. however, this is the first time i've heard of this, so i wouldn't say you're compelled WHATSOEVER to do this. but if you so choose, just order an arrangement like this ahead of time and have a family member deliver it the day after you give birth or something. i don't necessarily agree on the cigar thing,'s a good idea, if your doc seems like that kind of guy!
Mommy-of-Three Mommy-of-Three 9 years
I never thought of doing this but at my 6 week checkup after my first child another patient in the waiting room had brought along a gift for the doctor and a tray of cookies for the nurses and receptionist. I thought it was a nice gesture but I never did it myself. A friend works on a hospital maternity floor and she says often the parents bring gifts of food after the delivery. They are usually given for all the nursing staff to share such as trays of fruit, cookies, donuts, even pizza occasionally.
gunther gunther 9 years
The morning after we delivered my husband went to a local place in Austin and brought back 2 dozen kolaches for the staff. I don't think it's mandatory, but I'm sure it's appreciated.
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