Mommy Dearest,

A friend of mine is pregnant and asked me for my son's hand-me-downs. I only have one child and plan on having more.

I am willing to lend her some of his outfits, toys and blankets, but I want them returned in the same condition to use again in the future. What's the appropriate way to respond?

— Conditional Lender

To read the response from Mommy Dearest,


Conditional Lender,

Simply tell your friend your expectations. However as a mother, I am sure you understand that babies are unpredictable and even the tidiest of tots cannot insure that inevitable stains won't set. You have no obligation to hand over your goods, but if you do be realistic about them coming back in the same condition.

— Mommy Dearest

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