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Mommy Dearest: Mom Drunk at School Drop-Off

Mommy Dearest,

I volunteer at the drop-off at my children's private school each morning. I usually direct traffic or help students from the cars and pass paperwork to their parents.

The other day, while assisting one of my daughter's first grade classmates from his car, I smelled a strong scent of alcohol in the vehicle and on his mother's breath when she told him to have a good day. I noticed it once before, but let it go thinking it was my imagination.

It was only eight o'clock in the morning! I had heard rumors that the woman was a drinker, but am appalled that she put her own child at risk. I cannot confront her since she is always with him so what should I do?

— Appalled By Intoxicated Mom

To read Mommy Dearest's response,


Appalled By Intoxicated Mom,

I agree confronting the woman would probably make the child extremely uncomfortable, however you must do something since she is putting her son at risk as well as everyone else on the road. I would recommend reporting the incident to the school and following up with them to make sure some course of action is taken.

Hopefully, they will be able to offer the mom the help she may need.

—Mommy Dearest

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sofi sofi 9 years
I would call the police, give the person's name & address, car description and tag number and tell them what time drop-off is. If there is an officer in the vicinity they can approach her after she has pulled away. The school should know but the authorities are the only ones who can actually do something to stop this immediately.
ElleJay ElleJay 9 years
Yah, I would def. talk to the school and have them handle it.
Nyrina-Windu Nyrina-Windu 9 years
I understand your reasons for not wanting to approach her. But I would report it to the school and too the police. Maybe they can have an undercover officer around, so that when they approach her car out of uniform it won't frightened the children and other parents, but it will take care of the situation. Try that one to be safe. It may just work.
MarinerMandy MarinerMandy 9 years
I'd call the police right away. She's not only endangering her own child, but every other parent and child who is being dropped off.
stina829 stina829 9 years
That's terrible! I'd start w/school administration and if it keeps happening I'd call the cops.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
call the police and report it.
Schaianne Schaianne 9 years
As a dispatcher, I say to get a vehicle description, tag number, and description of the driver - then call it in to the police/sheriff's office. This woman needs to be stopped before she hurts someone.
bellaressa bellaressa 9 years
Call the police, and make a judgement call. She can kill herself but more importantly the kids. I say call while they are not in the car and report her LP#.
backfat backfat 9 years
Geez. And I thought the mother who was smoking with her kids in the car during drop-offs last week was bad. Seriously, I'd arrange for her to get pulled after she drops the kid off. That way he's safe at school and not in the car to be horrified or scarred for life by the experience.
plasticapple plasticapple 9 years
Have you spoken to the school administration? That would be the place to start.
blob blob 9 years
I would report her to the school and police. She is putting her children is serious danger and their safety is my primary concern. I don't know where Dad is but someone should inform him also.
Fatica Fatica 9 years
Unfortunately, my family was in a situation like this with my niece and nephew. Their mom, my brother's ex wife, is an alcoholic and was constantly driving them around while she was drunk or letting her drunk boyfriend drive them. My brother did everything he could to get full custody without getting lawyers involved. Luckily, he was successful. I don't know about this woman, but if she is divorced and the father is more responsible than her, he should definitely be informed. There's a chance he doesn't know and he may be able to do something about it.
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