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Mommy Dearest: Mother-in-Law Wants to Help With Newborn

Mommy Dearest,

I'm seven months pregnant and my mother-in-law just called to ask how long my husband and I would like her to stay after the baby is born. Since she lives in a different state, she plans on flying in for the delivery and then helping us get situated at home.

While I love her good intentions, but would prefer if we ease into life as new parents as a couple. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but think three will be a crowd in our small house when I'm bonding with my infant. What should I do?

— Pregnant and Perplexed

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Pregnant and Perplexed,

The best thing to do is tell your mother-in-law the truth — that you appreciate her kind gesture, but would prefer to spend those first couple of days at home bonding as a family and establishing your own routine. If you are comfortable with her being at the hospital after you deliver, extend an invitation and recommend a place she can stay in the area. If you would like her to visit at a later date, suggest some in the future so she can put it on her calendar. Since she's a mom, she may understand where you are coming from.

— Mommy Dearest

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