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Mommy Dearest: OK to Cancel Playdate When Child Has Lice?

Mommy Dearest,

My sister-in-law just called and both she and her three-year-old daughter have lice. My niece got it at daycare and passed it on to her mom, which is understandable. But, I'm hosting a family playdate on Wednesday for all the cousins (about 15 kids total) at my house and don't think either of them should come as it could get easily passed along to the rest of us. Is it out of line to uninvite them?

— Scratching My head Over What To Do

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Scratching My Head Over What To Do,

I think it is completely appropriate to ask your sister-in-law to sit this playdate out as long as you do so in a polite manner. Simply call and explain that as the host, you'd prefer they stay home since lice can be easily transmitted between small children. If she doesn't understand, explain that it's similar to if her child had something contagious like the flu. She wouldn't bring her tot around all the other cousins if she was sick so this situation should be handled the same way.

— Mommy Dearest

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vmruby vmruby 8 years
It's more than ok to cancel and reschedule the playdate .It's a bigger pain in the a$$ to get rid of the lice.
MissSushi MissSushi 8 years
Well, she doesn't say that her sister expects to come... for all we know her sister assumed that by calling and saying, oops we have lice was a big red flag of we arnet coming. I know if my sister called me up and said her kid had chicken pox or lice, that would be a pretty clear indication that they arent planning on coming. This question reeks of dishonesty and a complete lack of common sense, and leaves out important details that i mentioned before. Considering its her sister, and that they are close enough for her to call her up and admit that they contracted head lice, i think its somewhat odd that this is even a real issue
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
hi, what can we bring on wednesday, i mean besides the highly contagious condition that will invade your entire house? lol, i agree, they are officially uninvited. maybe reschedule the whole thing so there is no option of them showing up at all and they don't feel left out.
foxie foxie 8 years
Did someone seriously ask this question?
Greggie Greggie 8 years
Question though - how far away is "Wed" in this scenario? If it really means they called on Tuesday and the playdate is the next day, she shouldn't even consider coming. If there's more than a couple of days between it, it's entirely possible that she and her daughter would be clear by the time the playdate comes around. Depending on how quickly they caught it, it could take anywhere from one treatment to over a week of treatments.
snarkypants snarkypants 8 years
well said ladies, that's exactly what i came here to say!
skigurl skigurl 8 years
1. she should be uninviting herself, if she had any sense 2. if you're close enough with her, it shouldn't be too awkward to just say "you know, i was thinking, and i'm pretty sure lice is pretty contageous...maybe we should reschedule the playdate until little daughter is all clear of the lice so we don't accidentally give it to all 15 of the other little ones" ... and hopefully she'll get the point
Greggie Greggie 8 years
Anyone who wouldn't voluntarily remove themselves from the playdate isn't someone I'd regularly want at my house anyway. If LICE isn't a reason for them to call and say they're staying home, I'd worry about what else they exposed my kids to without telling me.
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