Mommy Dearest,

My sister-in-law is pregnant, due in two months and this is her first baby. Up until recently she was planning on having the child at the hospital. Now she is telling everyone that she plans on having it at home naturally. She has no midwife and no training, but thinks she can do this with her husband and it will be OK. Her own mother had five kids at home and I think she might be there for the birth.

I don't think it's a good idea — especially this late in the game and I am very worried for her safety and the baby. I know that she is not telling her OB/GYN. Do I keep my mouth shut? Do I voice my worries? Is it ANY of my business at all?

— Worried About Home Birth Without Help

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Worried About Home Birth Without Help,

If you think the mother or baby's life is in danger, go with your gut and talk to your sister-in-law. The best way to do so is to be honest without passing judgment. Tell her you are thrilled about the impending arrival, but you worry about the safety of a home birth that is not staffed by an experienced professional. She will more than likely fill you in on the facts and her plan. Aside from voicing your concerns, there is nothing else you can do except wish her well.

— Mommy Dearest

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