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Mommy Dearest: Uncensored Friends

Mommy Dearest,

My friends love my daughter, and she can't get enough of their stories. The problem is that these single women aren't used to telling the abridged versions of their weekend tales, many of which are not appropriate for a 6-year-old's ears. I don't want to censor them, but I also don't want them talking about "hooking up" or their weight issues in her presence.

— Uncensored Friends

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Uncensored Friends,

Friendships aside, your responsibility is to your daughter and you have every right to request that certain topics like sex and body image issues not be discussed in front of her. Realizing it's in the child's best interest, I'm sure your friends will happily oblige or adopt some Samantha Jones "coloring" code words. If this isn't the case, you might want to leave your lil girl with a sitter the next time you head out for fun with the ladies and adult conversation.

— Mommy Dearest

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Carri Carri 6 years
I think this really depends on the situation. There is a time and place for kids and a time and place for adults. I asked a friend of mine to not cuss in front of my son, but I never bring him to "girls nights", etc.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
gnedelerious if someone has their kid int he smoking area, you should call children's services. Skigrl the mother who corrected you is being way to uptight and overprotective. By the age of 12, they've heard all the bad words already. The bad words my kids knows are crap and f*ck. If you say either one in front of her, she'll tell you to stop swearing. As far as sex, she knows that 'making out' is tongue kissing. I don't talk sex in front of her and neither do my friends, but if I'm on the phone or if she's in the next room I say 'make out' instead of 'have sex' just in case she overhears. My friends are all hip to it, and it works well.
gonedelirious gonedelirious 9 years
my friend tries to sensor me and my boyfriend but then cusses herself in front of her child! it really pisses me off! and then she wonders why her 2 1/2 year old told her husband to "go to bed, dammit", people get too worried about others & then don't watch themselves. AND, if your child is sitting next to me in the smoking area (not right next to me & it was on the back of a boat) DO NOT tell me to stop smoking, get your kid out of the smoking area!
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 9 years
akpril that's what i was insinuating be considerate toward others, of course children should mingle with adults but when it is appropriate
skigurl skigurl 9 years
for the record, i wasn't at a cocktail party, it was a group of people sitting around before dinner in bathing suits drinking cocktails and having appetizers, but still....don't bring her around us if she can't hear the word "shit"...know your audience!
Akpril Akpril 9 years
I don't agree at all that kids should not mingle with adults. Granted, a cocktail party is probably something I don't want my kid to be a part of, but why raise a kid that cannot talk to adults? Any why can't I spend time with my kid in the company of other adults? I'm not going to talk about my sex life in front of my grandma- should I ask her to play outside, too? Certain conversations need to be tailored for certain groups of people.
sassy_chick sassy_chick 9 years
I'm big on your children not inconveniencing others. Leave your daughter at home.
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 9 years
that is when you tell your child go play i as an adult am having grown up talk, why do people have to censor their conversation, now if there was no where for the child to go then you best bet you better censor your conversation, skigurl that child had no business sitting with adults over cocktails, that is my biggest pet peeve, children mingling with adults the parents that are the ones allowing it have to know that the other adults are uncomfortable i know i get that way because if i want to throw around a curse word i couldn't because i would respect the child but that always irritates me especially to see children in adult conversations, rant over back to sanity
skigurl skigurl 9 years
they need to learn to be a bit more discrete in front of your child. but i have to admit, i was at a cottage this weekend, talking with all the adults and others my age about a wedding we all attended, and i said the word "shit show" a couple times and this woman who i don't even know, a neighbors sister-in-law who was visiting and had her 12-ish year old daughter sitting with her just touched me on the arm to get me to stop swearing...and i was totally annoyed. i hadn't even ever spoken to this person and she was correcting me. maybe your kid shouldn't be the only one under the age of 18 sitting here having cocktails if you're so worried about the word 'shit'
SugarKat SugarKat 9 years
Agreed. I always give "the look" if someone curses in front of my daughter, but my friends do censor themselves and I never had to say anything. The mom look works every time. The biggest offender is my brother...he's always apologizing...
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