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Neighbor Is Registered Sex Offender

Mommy Dearest: Saw Friend's Neighbor on Megan's Law Site

Mommy Dearest,

I have four kids and am a worrier so I check the Megan's Law website to see if any registered sex offenders are in our area once a month. Yesterday, I ran a friend's zip code and almost fell out of my chair when I saw her neighbor in the database! I can't decide what to do. Should I tell her even though she just spent a million dollars on the home, isn't in a position to move, and will probably be freaked out? Or do I keep quiet and see if she eventually finds out for herself? She's the type of person that likes to plan block parties and really get to know people so I worry that she with start a friendship and allow her children to get to know the man? What should I do?

— In a Pickle

To read Mommy Dearest's response,


In a Pickle,

What a tough situation — I see why you are having a hard time figuring out what to do! But all things considered, I think it's best to tell your friend. Giving her that bit of knowledge allows her the opportunity to make the most informed decision for her family. If the situation were reversed, won't you want the benefit of protecting your children?

— Mommy Dearest

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lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
Does anyone have any recommendations on which websites are good to check? (The one linked is for CA only.)
Julie12345 Julie12345 7 years
Yes tell her. But if possible find out the offense for the reasons stated. In IL some have been convicted as SO for "sexting" their friends. Obviously, that would not put your friends' children at risk.
snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 7 years
i read very recently that sex offenders most often reoffend or lurk in their own neighborhoods. i'd tell her--for the sake of her kids, how can you not?
runningesq runningesq 7 years
I would tell her. I think it's odd that you almost fell out of your chair because a SO was in the same zipcode.. there are at least 20 within a 3 block radius of me. The same zipcode could mean miles apart. I believe on family watchdog it tells you WHAT the person was convicted of.
starbucks2 starbucks2 7 years
I say tell her. But do keep an open mind. There are many men on there who had sex with a minor when they were just a year older themselves (seriously, why list them on there? They're no threat, it doesn't serve any purpose, it just makes it harder to filter the actual bad guys out!) She should know, though, what if he's really dangerous?
jenni5 jenni5 7 years
You should absolutely tell her. Just because she is not in the position to move doesn't mean she shouldn't know what her neighbor did and keep her kids away. It could be something like #2 said but who knows it could be much worse! This is one case where ignorance is not bliss.
Liss1 Liss1 7 years
I would tell her, If she didn't know to keep her kids away from the neighbor, you never know something awful could happen and then you would feel responsible.
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