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Parenting Q&A: OK For Opposite-Sex Siblings to Share Room?

Parenting Q&A: OK For Opposite-Sex Siblings to Share Room?

Q. My son, 1, and daughter, 3, share a room. Is there a certain point when they should be moved into separate bedrooms?

A. Other cultures do not have the luxury of space to create gender-exclusive rooms. We are a bit phobic about having our sons and daughters together too long. I personally think it is a lovely experience for both as long as they feel like they have privacy; typically this occurs when the eldest starts elementary school and begins to clearly choose same-sex friends. An older sister will not want to share her Polly Pocket world with her new BFF and her little brother. It is for that reason, and only that reason, I can see splitting them up. Boys and girls, despite my generation's theories, do play differently and should be able to have their own space to do so.

— Lonna Corder

Parenting expert and Montessori school director Lonna Corder has been doling out advice for 25 years as a teacher, parent/child consultant, and on television. For more information, visit

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kty kty 7 years
i don't think there is any problem with siblings of opposite sex sharing a room,especially when they are young,but i'm sure that by the time they reach their pre-teen years they will want to have their own bedroom.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
Keiren, that is adorable !
keiren63 keiren63 7 years
my youngest two (eight and nine) have their own rooms but come bedtime, my daughter solemnly asks her brother if she can sleep in his room--every single night!! And he always says yes. They both say they are nervous to sleep on their own, but I think they just like the moments of togetherness and silliness of talking quietly to each other until they fall asleep.
MissSushi MissSushi 7 years
I dont think theres anything wrong with it honestly, privacy goes for ANY siblings, not just opposite genders, anyway
ckilpatrick1986 ckilpatrick1986 7 years
My brother and I shared a bedroom until I was around 13. We had side by side twin beds and then later on bunk beds. I never felt like I didn't have privacy or that I needed more privacy. We had our fights of course but that's only normal. I'll admit that I did hate sharing a room with him at times but when we got our own rooms I missed him. When we were older (late teens) I would sit in his room before we went to sleep and talk. I think that sharing a bed room helped my brother and I have the relationship that we do today. Well that and all the crap we went through (our mom died when we were young). I love my brother. So IMO it's perfectly okay for brothers and sisters to share a room.
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