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Parenting Q&A: Working Parents Want Max Time With Tot

Parenting Q&A: Working Parents Want Max Time With Tot

Q. My husband and I both work full time and don't get to spend much time with our two-year-old during the week. We eat breakfast as a family, but then our son spends the rest of the day with his nanny and is asleep by the time we get home. How can we maximize our quality time with him on weekends? ?

A. It is with compassion and support that I answer this. Parents no longer have the luxury of choosing to work; we must work to keep everything together. It seems irresponsible for one employed parent to leave a job when the other could lose theirs the next day. Two-year-olds have very specific needs for their development. They need to develop their large motor skills, they need to be exposed to rich language experiences, and they need to have a strong sense of order and security. Parents are the first and most influential teachers. If weekends are the only precious hours, make every waking minute count. For the rest of Lonna's answer,


Try to create and maintain a weekend schedule. I realize it’s when errands need to be run and socializing is desirable, but the main focus should be your family and your son. Go to the park, read books, talk during family meals, and go to children’s discovery museums. Remember, while parents may want a “fun” weekend of events, the two-year-old wants to be with mommy and daddy having simple and skill building experiences. Naps are the perfect time to run to the store. Mommy and daddy can get a baby sitter to come after their child is put to bed and have a much-needed adult date night. Two-year-olds want and adore time with their parents, they learn how to love and be loved. Put as much time as you can into him at two and he will want to be with you when he’s twelve. I promise.

— Lonna Corder

Parenting expert and Montessori school director, Lonna Corder has been doling out advice for 25 years as a teacher, parent/child consultant and on television. For more information, visit

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macgirl macgirl 8 years
Ah this made me a little sad. How hard it must be to be away from your little one so much. I'm much more fortunate this time around to have a fairly flexible schedule that allows me to be home a bit more. I don't know if I could handle such a tough schedule :-(
skigurl skigurl 8 years
the last line is good advice. i never thought of that. my parensts were always around (i had one non-family after-hours babysitter ever in my life), we had family dinners every night together, they took us on every family vacation, my mom stayed home for a bunch of years and did daycare in the house so she could be with us, and they actually enjoyed playing with us....and now we all still like being at home as a family...we never tired of spending time with our parents....but i can see the opposite in some of my friends whose parents weren't quite as attentive growing up
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