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Parents Urge Adoption on MTV's 16 and Pregnant

Should Teen Moms Be Directed Toward Adoption?

Last night's episode of 16 and Pregnant was a tearjerker as teen mom Lori passed her newborn, Aidan, off to a loving couple during an open-adoption ceremony. While the 17-year-old was in a rocky relationship (at best) with her son's father, Cory, and not in a position to take care of herself let alone the baby, it was her parents who strongly urged the adoption. Explaining that they would be happy to be grandparents but not the primary caretakers of the infant, Lori's parents told her she needed to make a plan to raise the child outside of their home if she kept him. After some persuasion, Lori and Cory both conceded to the adoption, with the latter calling Lori's father to let him know he would sign the papers. Do you think teen parents should be urged to give up their parental rights?

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teenprograms teenprograms 7 years
There are many adoptions counselors and lawyers dedicated to help people in adaptation process who are willing of adopting children. Adoptive kids need extended care, love and moral support. They ask various questions related to their birth and about real parents. Adoptive families should get essential tips and all the information related with teen adoptation. Teenagers suffering from unplanned pregnancy should consult with counselors who recommend various options to overcome such problems.
nicmic113 nicmic113 7 years
i was pregnant at 16, had my daughter at 17, lived with my grandmother, who helped raise and care for my daughter and later took a lot more control as I graduated and my selfish immature phase kicked in, without a complaint my grandmother become primary caretaker when my daughter was about 2, I moved out. I was a sideline mom, ashamed of it now, ignorant to it then. When I got my sh*t together,6 years later, we moved into a nice house with my fiance and my daughter. Shes 14 now. I regret the things I missed with her but I was never an absent mom. Watching her grow up and take her steps and hit puberty. Still, I know she was better off living with my incredible grandmother than with anyone else on this planet. We are very close and I couldnt imagine not having her in life. It took time, but I grew up, took responsibility, and my daughter is extremely well rounded, smart and funny and happy. I thank my grandmother for giving me those years to grow up and appreciate what i have. Im just had my third child last year, and the guilt of not having my first with me 24/7 those 6 years still weighs on me, but also has made me a better mother, a more caring, thoughtful, selfless mother. If my 14 y/o were to get pregnant, i would not push adoption, and I would care for my grandbaby until her mom was ready to take over the reigns. I know there are many wonderful ppl out there who cant have children but there are an equal number of ppl out there who arent good parents- I couldnt take that risk
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
I voted No, but Adoption should be considered (researched) before the choice is made. I've seen every episode of this show and Teen Mom, some of these kids just aren't ready to have a child. Teens (and some adults) need to be taught to be choosy about who they sleep with. If he's verbally abusive, flaky, breaking up with you every week, and immature, probably a bad idea to have sex with them. When I'm watching the show, I'm practically yelling at the tv, wondering why these girls are wasting their time with these idiots. This season in particular, the guys are making Ryan and Gary look like saints. I don't blame her parents (who adopted her) for encouraging her to give her son up, she wasn't ready. Her bf was a douche, she had no income, still in high school, basically no way of supporting the child. It would have completely fallen into the laps of the parents. It's not fair to them OR the child. It's tough, every situation is different and it's never cut and dry.
glowingoasis glowingoasis 7 years
I agree with GMarie. Each mother and her situation is different.
GMarie GMarie 7 years
I think it really depends on the person. I come from a family that adopted several children from several different circumstances, and in our case, it was a beautiful, wonderful thing. One of the adoptions was an open one, and that child is now over 18 and has become friends with the mother who was unable to be a parent in her teens. I know some girls who had babies in their teens, kept the babies and have made a terrible mess of it. I also know some girls who got pregnant in their teens, kept their babies and turned themselves COMPLETELY around, making the child their first priority and doing a great job of parenting. Everybody's different, and there's no one blanket solution.
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
If you can't care for your child, and have no hope of doing so in the immediate future, you have to remember your first obligation to your child: keep them safe. I didn't see the episode, but I'm glad they showed that babies need care and that the responsibility is bigger than "I love you". Teen parents either have the support of others that allow them to keep their baby, or they don't. There is no middle ground. My bff's son and his now wife, had a baby 15 months ago. My bff and her husband TOTALLY support them financially. House, food, insurance, clothing, utilities; everything. It's a lot. And let's face it, not everyone can afford it, and not everyone wants to.
danaruth danaruth 7 years
I have several friends who were unable to have kids and adopted. They are the most grateful, loving parents I've met because they don't take anything for granted. Knowing that anyone who goes through the arduous and expensive process must be thoroughly vetted and really committed to being parents, I would feel totally comfortable giving up an unplanned child up to a wonderful couple. Also, I think back to when I was 16 or 17. I was a CHILD, barely able to take care of myself. There's no way I'd be able to hold down a job, pay for rent and / or child care, and do a good job of raising a baby by myself at the age of 18, or even 21. An unmarried teenage mom made a mistake and unintentionally got pregnant. There's no reason a baby should suffer the consequences. Every baby deserves the best parents - and sometimes the best ones aren't the ones that give you life.
ShinyAndrea ShinyAndrea 7 years
I thought that ep was really weird too and it made me uncomfortable the way her parents kind of closed that door for her. I mean, I guess if she were really ready to be a parent she would have made a plan to move out to be able to raise the baby, but it was very, very sad to watch. Made me even more attached to the little one I'm expecting!
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