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Playground Patrol: Advocate Self Defense in the Sandbox?

My husband and I were at the park over the weekend watching our kids climb on a pirate ship structure when I overheard a couple of other parents chatting. Their daughter who looked to be about six or seven was complaining about a little boy bugging her. Her father said something about the other child being smaller and then advised, "Give him three warnings and then use martial arts." While it's clear that this daddy didn't want his daughter getting bullied, is it appropriate to advocate a physical solution...on a younger child? Some moms and pops tell their tots to steer clear of troublemakers and others ask that their wee ones try and resolve sandbox issues themselves before telling an adult. What advice do you give your child?


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corcar86 corcar86 8 years
I don't have kid's yet but I know my mom and dad always taught us to use our words first. My mom in particular was a big advocate of trying to get to know what was really bothering the child and trying to befriend them (which could be exasperating at times I will admit lol) They also made it clear to myself and my brothers and sisters that we were never to "throw the first punch" so to speak but if another child got physical with us first and there were no adults around to end the situation then we were absolutely allowed to defend ourselves 100%! My oldest brother happened to be in a confrontation in the high school cafeteria where a kid he didn't know threw ketchup on him as he was walking past, when my brother went over to the kid to ask him what his problem was he sucker punched my brother! As you can imagine an all out brawl broke out between the two and they both ended up in the principal's office. When they called my mom into school and told her what happened and that they were suspending my brother and the other kid my mom freaked out on them after they had admitted that my brother did not initiate the fight (he only ENDED it! haha) and in the end kept them from suspending my brother!
momma-tikita momma-tikita 8 years
wow. I've never heard of anything like that! I usually tell my kid to play somewhere else. If I see that something might happen before hand I pull my kids out.
macgirl macgirl 8 years
Why don't we teach things that they can take with them as they grow? So as an adult if a coworker was bugging me I can give her three warnings and then a judo chop to the head? Nice. I'm a big advocate of going somewhere else and not letting the "bugger" have that kind of power over you.
vmruby vmruby 8 years
Some parents can be such colossal morons.... Yeah the self defense moves would work for awhile until eventually somebody bigger and badder comes along and karate kicks his daughter's butt all over the playground.Then the claws will come out and daddy won't think it's such a good idea anymore. As for my daughter I'm trying to teach her to be the bigger person so I would tell her to go and play somewhere else.I would never encourage her to use physical force on child just for being annoying.
Greggie Greggie 8 years
I'm sorry, the story says "bugging," not bullying. I read it wrong. "Bugging" could mean anything from jumping to the front of the line to singing a song that bugs another kid. Yeah, in that case my sole advice to my child would be "So go play somewhere else."
Greggie Greggie 8 years
I agree that I'd just tell my child to play elsewhere. Or I'd step in and tell the bullying kid to watch it. It drives me NUTS when parents let their kids run wild on the playground and bully the other kids.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
:rotfl: no!! really? a little to much like "3 warnings; then kick her ass!" insane. i would never tell that to my child and i think i would just leave the play ground if i heard someone else say it. and btw, i'm sure rambo dad thinks his daughter is tough. first time she picks the wrong kid (read kid who is better at martial arts) to teach a lesson to, i'm sure dad will change his tune.
mhg mhg 8 years
really? this is absurd. you should teach your kids that people will bug you your entire life and while you shouldn't be a doormat, you don't need to resort to violence, martial arts or otherwise. what a strange thing to teach your 6-year-old.
sofi sofi 8 years
:jawdrop: seriously! I personally would have told my child to go play somewhere else away from the other child. If that child continued to bother them, I'd go talk to the parent or get out of there.
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