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Private vs. Public Schools

Public or Private Schools?

A product of the public school system, I am a strong believer that there is much to be learned in the free–for–all study system that we have here in America. Skilled in my ABCs and 123s, I also gained a knowledge of socioeconomic and cultural differences in the classroom. I would not trade my experiences as they prepared me for the world. On the other hand, my husband benefited from a top–notch education and an excellent athletic department at the private school across the street from mine.

Which do you prefer — public or private schooling?

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maddielove maddielove 9 years
I guess it depends on where I live. We have great public schools in my area so I have no problem sending my daughter there. I will send my daughter to a private school if the public school in my area is not good
sldc sldc 9 years
The best education is one in which a person learns to think for herself and seeks learning as a life long love. This can be accomplished in either setting and both types of education have many disadvantages and advantages. Parents have a responsibility to make the most of their child's education no matter what school their child attends.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
the public school system failed both myself and my husband, so private school for our kids.
Gabriela14815884 Gabriela14815884 9 years
I went to public school my whole life and my husband went to private so there is some debate as to whether or not our daughter will go to public or private. I agree that there are benefits to both and if we could manage it then I would probably send her to private school just because the public schools in my area are getting a little ridiculous with all the regulations and testing things definitely aren't the same like when I was young and the kids are SO different its scary. We'll see what happens, in the end the experience will be based on how good my daughter (and subsequent kids) make it.
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
I went to private school up through the first year and a half of high school and then public school after that. The public school I went to was considered a very good school, but I found it laughably easy after the ultra competitive private school I went to. We're looking to move to the next county over so that our children can attend public school in a great district because there is just no way we can afford private school at this point. Our preference is private school, but we'll have to make do with what we can afford. At least we have what's called the "school of choice" program where we can arrange to have our kids attend whichever school we think is best.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 9 years
Our children have been to both public and private schools, there are benefits to both.
babysugar babysugar 9 years
Romaniagrl, I totally agree with you - the best qualified teacher should get the job. I was actually told by one school that my skin wasn't dark enough for the job! Anyway, it is what it is. I just think it's interesting that some parents may want to keep their children sheltered in a private school environment when those are the schools pushing diverse faculty. I do think kids can learn a lot from different role models though so I don't think it's all bad.
rgrl rgrl 9 years
"I can speak from experience when I tell you that highly respected expensive private schools are LOOKING to hire people with diverse backgrounds. The black, gay, jewish male teacher is a dream for private schools these days because he can introduce a whole new world to youngsters who may only be privy to a heterosexual white family at home." I find that so ridiculous! How about just looking for a good teacher and if a black, gay, Jewish one comes along then great! I am so sick of the whole diverse, politically correct thing happening. It's so forced and not natural anymore. Sorry baby sugar, this is not intended as a slam to you or your comment, just this "phenomenon".
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
let me pass on something here to those interested in home schooling. (that was our plan until my oldest was diagnoised with autism and it was just impossible.) anyway, in california you can home school through your school district. it's called independent study. you get the books and materials from the school district and go in every 2 weeks to meet with a teacher. the teacher answers any questions you have and then you get the next assignment. you grade your child and their transcript reads as if they had attended a public california school. and it's free :)
Jennifer777 Jennifer777 9 years
At this point I plan on homeschooling my children. If something happens in the next 4-5 years to change public schools then I might reconsider. Private school really isn't an option because of the cost (and even if I could afford it I would want to be reassured that EVERY teacher my child comes in contact with is credentialed.)
LiLRuck44 LiLRuck44 9 years
Homeschool for my kids.
amber_castaldo amber_castaldo 9 years
I would choose public over private but in the area that we are looking to move the public schools have a terrible rep so it might be private school for my little tike. I went to public it wasn't so bad. There were not very many people in my school though so that could be a big part of it. I don't really know what to expect from city public schools. I hope that they are as student focussed as the only one in my home town.
Hautie Hautie 9 years
I would chose Private school. I attended public school till 5th grade only. Even by then in the late 70's my Mother was mortified by the whole public school system. I not only graduated from a private High School... I also graduated from a private College. And they were both fully state credential. To be honest I never knew of any of the local private schools near me to ever be anything but fully state credential. Keeping in mind I was raised in a wonderful town... north of Dallas Texas. But even in the "best" communities you have horrible children whose parents have taken no responsibility for their raising. (Which is even more of an issue today in schools.) So anyone teaching children in either private or public schools get my respect. I do not have the ability to get past rude children... or their enabling parents.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
Location, location, location. I believe in both systems as well, as a product of both types of schools, and married to a man who is the private-school educated public-school teacher. But it's all in location. There are a lot of public schools I wouldn't send my child to, and a lot of private schools I wouldn't send my child to. However, in an ideal world, I would have my children go to Catholic school simply because it would bring everything together.
schnappycat schnappycat 9 years
I honestly don't understand how the average person can afford private school tuition, especially for more than one child. We do well financially and I still don't think we could easily afford it. Fortunately, we live in an area with excellent public schools, and since my husband and I attended public too, we are good with it. I think private would be great and offer different opportunities, but it just seems steep, especially with college costs skyrocketing.
babysugar babysugar 9 years
You have all brought up some interesting topics. On the sexual preference and moral issues being taught in schools, I can speak from experience when I tell you that highly respected expensive private schools are LOOKING to hire people with diverse backgrounds. The black, gay, jewish male teacher is a dream for private schools these days because he can introduce a whole new world to youngsters who may only be privy to a heterosexual white family at home. I think it's a great way to open the eyes of students to the real world - much like public schools do.
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
LaDolce - I totally see where you are coming from...but I also see the other side. I think the great thing about public school is that children learn that the world is full of different types of people and they learn how to be tolerable of and social around each type. I
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
my 3 girls have always gone to private schools. i like the input and control parents have on what is taught, and the fact that children are taught respect and manners throughout the day. there is original art work in the halls and a computer lab the students are allowed access too during lunch, nothing is ever damaged. the computers are updated every 2 years and there are teachers just for computer, spanish, math, music, art and science. my girls take private piano lessons at school and in 4th grade they add another instrument. the campus is beautiful, deer and wild turkeys are scene on campus every week. my experience with public schools was dirty, run down schools, stressed out teachers in over crowded classrooms (frequently trailers) and potty mouthed kids who knew there were no consequences for their actions. i remember a fist fight between my 10 grade biology teacher and a student when i said to myself "my kids will never go to a public school".
LaDolceVita LaDolceVita 9 years
I know that wording can be a bit confusing when just reading so, please know that I have no hate for ANYONE. How could I? What I don't want is for schools to mix moral issues with their studies.
sassy_chick sassy_chick 9 years
LaDolceVita, you are certainly entitled to your opinion. However, I have to say that your wording and tone could be construed as hateful. Whether that was your intention, it was what I thought when I read it. I've been cheered by the other rational and logical responses here, though. As a private-school educated public school teacher, I believe in each system. Private school was right for me because of the school district I grew up in, but all the teachers in the school I work in now are fighting hard for each of their 20-25 students. I think parents need to take the time to examine all options, but not dismiss public education immediately simply because it's public.
LaDolceVita LaDolceVita 9 years
Rally Re, I'm not teaching my daughter too look down at anyone, I just think that moral values, and sexual preferences should be taught at home, not at schools. If I were to believe that my sexual orientation or preference is the "right" one, why can't I have that right to believe so, I'm tired of people thinking that Straight people are prejudice just because we believe in our values. I'm not trying to change yours, let me have mine, and you'll have yours, it's absoluetly NONE of your business how I raise my children.
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
It depends on where you live. We live in Finland where the schools are excellent so of course our daughter attends public school. Private school isn't even an option. However, if we were living in the US we would probably lean towards private school or even try home schooling. I attended mostly private schools and in my case they were much better than public.
imcs imcs 9 years
I'd perfer to put my kids in private school. I went to both private and public and the differences in schooling were inmense. Of course if there is a magnet or charter school with the ratings and quality of a private school I'd certainly consider it as well.
ufshutterbabe ufshutterbabe 9 years
I went to public, and my parents are public school teachers, but I would definitely lean towards private or home school. My sister works with a child in the local Waldorf school, and that sounds quite interesting. The kids don't get homework (I think homework for grade schoolers is mostly busy work - I want after-school time to be family time), but the teachers do ask that the students have a chore to do everyday to enforce the idea of helping the family. I really feel like I'd like to have more say over what and how my children are taught than the public school system allows.
meandtheo meandtheo 9 years
I strongly support public education. However, I do feel that the public school systems are failing our children and their needs to be a large overhaul in the way they are run (which is why I have always supported Obama, he has an amazing educational platform written by Linda Darling-Hammond). When enrolling your child(ren) into school you should look at every possible school that is available. There are some amazing things happening in PUBLIC charter schools right now and I feel that in the near future public education will be going in this direction. There are many schools that have small class sizes and offer differentiated teaching so they are able to support children of all backgrounds and learning styles. Don't just assume that because of where you live you HAVE to go to the school assigned to you. As a former teacher I know that just because it is a private school does not mean that your child is getting a better education (obviously not in all case). I taught for a number of years in both private and public schools and found that most of the teachers that were really trying to make a difference were in the public schools. It should also be noted that private schools do not require teachers to be credentialed and the pay is usually far less than that of a public system. The more we support and fight to better our public schools the better they will become.
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