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Restaurant Throws Salt at Child

Mommy Dearest: Restaurant Battle Over Spilled Rice

Mommy Dearest,

I recently took my two children (ages 1 and 3 years old) to a local sushi restaurant for lunch. As one might guess, my lil one managed to drop some rice on the floor during the meal. At the end of our meal, I took them to the restroom to clean up. Before leaving, I paid the bill, left a generous tip, and tried to rush out to the car with my exhausted tots. As I tried to exit the eatery, two of the employees blocked my path. One yelled, "You are a pig and you are raising a pig. You are worse than a pig. American children don't do this. You must be from some other place. I will call the police on you. You have to clean up. You are not leaving till you clean up. You are ruining my business. It was the cleanest place until you came. You are not welcome in this restaurant ever again. You are worse than a pig. You already made too much noise." Horrified and scared by her reaction, I apologized again and squeezed by the women. Still angry, one of the servers took a handful of salt and threw it at me but missed and hit my 3 year old in the back of the head.

I am sorry my children made a mess, but I left a lofty tip and apologized profusely. I would have cleaned up better, but my babies were reaching meltdown status. What else could I have done?

— Little Miss Messy

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Little Miss Messy,

There's no denying that restaurant owners and other patrons often cringe at the sight of children walking through the door. While some tots are perfectly behaved diners, there are others that don't do so well in high chairs. Nevertheless, most every restaurant owner and manager can expect children to be part of their clientele and part of that expectation should include food on the floor, a messy place mat, and chance of spillage on the table. That being said, I believe parents should do their best to clean up after themselves and their tots before leaving the establishment. If it's not an option, the busser has to take on the task and a heavier tip may be appropriate.

However, no restaurant owner or employee should ever assault a customer, let alone a child! Her behavior — from the insults to the salt throwing — was unacceptable. I would never dine there and would tell any mommy friends to boycott the establishment as well. She could have addressed the situation in a more pleasant manner or kept her grievances to herself. The restaurant is lucky to not have lawsuit on its hands.

— Mommy Dearest

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isabelle315 isabelle315 8 years
Since the lady threw the salt and hit the little girl, she did commit the crime of assault consummated by battery (and on a child, which is often an aggravating circumstance depending on the jurisdiction). I have a one-year-old, and when I take her out to eat I try to clean up after her, but it is impossible to get every little bit, and I shouldn't be expected to clean up every little bit. If an adult drops a crumb on the floor, the restaurant doesn't yell at them to clean up after themselves - part of running a restaurant is cleaning up the normal amount of mess that results from a person eating a meal!!
MissSushi MissSushi 8 years
Yeah, anon comments are a pretty big mistake. The internet is full of spite and malice and it just makes crappy comments easier to make. I find it pretty interesting that the majority of you believe the path of good parenting lies not in eating sushi and sushi like foods (rice and cucumbers, etc) which for the most part is healthy, but toward children being fed mcdonalds and chucky cheese. Meat by product, soda, and grease. right...
domino2728 domino2728 8 years
I am thinking anonymous comments are a bad idea. Also, I live in Dallas, not far from Flower Mound where police arrested a 10 year old girl for fighting with her sister. A city with lot's of lawyers that would take this case (I don't really think there is a real case here or if it went to trial, that mom would win.). Anyone who knows anything about law knows that most people settle out of court and most plaintiff lawyers do not charge their client, they take a percentage. I am not saying that it's acceptable, just that in Texas, that is how it is done. This is part of my job, I should know. Police could and might have arrested the salt thrower because it was at a child. I am pretty sure I would not have wanted to be that person because if mom would have called the police, salt guy would have been sweating it out a bit. Yes, it would have been an overreaction, but if you felt you or your child were threatened, then calling the police would have been the way to go. I would just tell everyone you know that you had a bad experience there, write up a scathing review about the child hating establishment online and let it go.
Akpril Akpril 8 years
#52- I think I love you.
Chouette4u Chouette4u 8 years
Yeah, we should just keep kids in cages until they're old enough to not make messes anymore.
cheersdarlin916 cheersdarlin916 8 years
Crap! I just dropped rice on my pants and the floor while eating lunch. Quick someone yell at me and throw salt at me.
sham28 sham28 8 years
1) DON'T GO BACK TO THAT RESTAURANT ANYMORE. 2) Explain to your kid(s) that there are really crazy people in the world, and it's not their fault. 3) Try to be better about picking up after them if you can, if not, don't sweat it. 4) Don't waste a ridiculous amount of time or money on suing someone who threw salt on your kid's hair. You're already down the cost of dinner/ tip.
runningesq runningesq 8 years
Anon @ 9:24 : assault is criminal.
Happsmjc Happsmjc 8 years
I agree MissSushi!! I agree also agree with runningesq that it wouldn't fly as a legit lawsuit but I think people are missing the BIG issue (with comments like she threw salt, boo hoo, or the child had to wash her hair". It's that she threw ANYTHING! B/c it was JUST SALT no one is seeing the bigger problem that an EMPLOYEE/another human being threw something at a PATRON. That is disgusting, regardless of WHAT was thrown. What if she had thrown dirt, or rocks, or something "worse" then salt--that is what is disgusting about this. As a member of society you DO NOT throw things at other people--morally, ethically, (and as an employee professionally). Forget that it was salt, and she just had to wash her hair--it could have been worse! This whole situation is ridiculous though--people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. For all those who say they and their children never leave messes, never go out when frazzled, never this, never that--no one follows you around 24/7--NEVER SAY NEVER--it could happen to you. I take my nieces and nephews out all the time and when they were young they made messes, I always cleaned up as much as possible on and under the table...but a few grains of rice--give me a break! (And most moms etc. take their kids to the bathroom after dinner, that does not signify there was a huge mess!) And to say she should feed her child, CHILDREN AND ADULTS SPILL!, at home, in public, it happens! I get crumbs under the table when I am out alone! UGH! Also, you can go out to dinner and everyone is happy, and by the end the kids get tired! It happens!! They are children!! No matter how well behaved. I'm glad everyone else is perfect and NEVER makes mistakes. Regardless of how "wrong" leaving a mess under the table is--the restaurants actions were inexcusable.
runningesq runningesq 8 years
The restaurant is lucky to not have lawsuit on its hands. Um, okay. Yes, it was crappy, and yes, the OP should make it widely known to avoid this restaurant, but what exactly is the cause of action for a lawsuit?? Intentional infliction of emotional distress? Battery? And it's certainly NOT criminal ! If this came into my office I would tell the complaintant that this just isn't a good case, and then laugh with my co workers.
medenginer medenginer 8 years
I don't think most people here condoned the restaurants behavior. There could have been ways to deter this situation by all parties involved.
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