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Rude Things People Say to Pregnant Women

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Adults say the darnedest things. The other day I shared an elevator with a woman who looked at me and asked, "So when are you due?" Breaking a smile I said, "Thanksgiving Day!" She looked at me and said, "Whoa! Twins?" I replied, "No. Just one." Used to insults from my last pregnancy, I left the store thinking that I don't care if I gain a whole bunch of weight as long as I have a healthy baby. But, it would be nice if people would keep their thoughts to themselves.

People aim some of the rudest comments at childbearing women. During my first pregnancy, one lady said to me, "I can tell it is going to be a girl by the way you're coming out on the sides." Who says that? What was the worst thing someone said to you while you were pregnant?

ERAY ERAY 6 years
Im 37 weeks pregnant and my daughter just turned a year. My boyfriend and I were not planning on having another so soon, however I got an IUD and it fell out without my knowledge, so here we are, again, a year later. So needless to say I got tons of unwanted comments. The one that bothered me the most though was, "Are you going to get your tubes tied?" It really hurt my feelings. No one would have asked that if we had the babies 5 years apart.
Mrs-StClair Mrs-StClair 9 years
omg people are so stupid. i'd always get co-workers trying to rub my belly, i dont really remember any rude comments, but if anybody said anything like what they said to you ladies, i'd totally bitch them out!
TMommy TMommy 9 years
I have gotten: "Wow- That is a BIG baby in there" "Wow- You look like you're about to pop' I still had 6 weeks left. I've gotten the carrying on the side/girl thing too. But my FAVORITE: As I was drinking a container of milk one during our office birthday celebration an intelligent (so I thought), older, male, co-worker said to me across the conference room table "Are you taking it in so you can give it out later" and he made a gesture from his chest area signifying where I would be "giving it out" from. EWWWWWWWW!
chocolatine chocolatine 9 years
From reading the comments, I'm amazed at how rude some people are. Isn't it one of the major etiquette rules to NEVER comment on a pregnant woman's size? The only things I ever say to pregnant women is "Congratulations", "You looks radiant", "You must be so happy", etc. If I were pregnant and got a rude comment, I'd use my hormones as an excuse to say something bitchy in return.
Drea0930 Drea0930 9 years
My husband's grandmother (who hates me, incase it's not obvious after my story is over) looked at me when I was about 12 weeks along, and told me "You look huge, like you're 5 months along already, are you sure you're not having twins?" (and smirked)!!! I didn't even start showing until I was 6 months along, as I'm very tall, so the baby had a lot of room to hide. I couldn't believe it!!!!
solstrale solstrale 9 years
Just last week, I went to get my 18 month old's hair cut and the hairdresser looks at me and says..."Oh..I'm not sure if I should...but you must get this a lot. Are you pregnant?" I was a bit taken aback as I'm very CLEARLY pregnant. I'm 35 weeks and have the roundest belly... So I said "Yeah, due in 6 weeks." And she replied "Oh, it's hard to tell..." I'll admit that in some cases, some women don't show at all, but honestly, it's not my case. So...that was a bit rude according to me.
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
oh how awful keiren!
keiren63 keiren63 9 years
When I got pregnant a fourth time everyone alive decided that they got to comment...and all negatively. Everyone somehow had decided for us that we were not allowed to have a fourth child. Not one person said one nice thing. One of my husband's friends said, "If you can't afford an abortion how will you afford the child." So, that was definitely the worst.
olivejuice olivejuice 9 years
I am currently 12 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child. I haven't received any comments yet, but when a couple of men I work with found out they actually tried to lift my shirt and look at my stomach! So weird.
macgirl macgirl 9 years
The wife of one of our friend who was pregnant and due within a few days of me said "don't take this wrong, but you make me feel really good about my myself and my weight gain". It was my second baby and I was noticeably pregnant by week 7, this was week 13 when she said that. I only gained like 25 pounds the whole pregnancy but I am short wasted and had no where to go but out. I got the are you sure it's not twins thing ALL THE TIME. I just finally gave up and said "nope, I just make 'em big".
northernbird northernbird 9 years
In my 8th month a man biking by called out "Looks like someone swallowed a watermelon!"
babyfashionista babyfashionista 9 years
When I walked into the DMV this guy who worked there asked "Ma'am can you please leave the basketball outside?"
alidog819 alidog819 9 years
After my friend found out she was having her third boy, someone said "Oh my god. Don't you just want to kill yourself?" She said, "ummmm, no."
Dana18 Dana18 9 years
I did have twins and people said all types of things to me. One woman said that I looked like I was going to pop. One guy asked is that a real, referring to my belly. One man would see me on the train everyday and would say twins to me, repeatedly!
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
My friend kept getting "Jeez how many are you going to have?!" on baby #4 (her last). She said that almost every person that knew them just commented on how they have an ungodly amount of kids now ... no one congratulated them!!! I mentioned her pregnancy to a mutual friend and he commented "Gah how many is that for them now?" ... and he has 4 himself!
Greggie Greggie 9 years
I agree about size, bessa. With Christina Aguilera and Halle Barry, Pop had a ton of "She's HUGE!!" comments and neither one of them were all that big.
bessa bessa 9 years
I got the twins comment once or twice. People who haven't been pregnant just do not realize how big many women get during those last 1-2 months. Even when the false rumors went around that Angelina Jolie had her babies early (what was it - about a month before she actualy had them?) people on PopSugar would comment "I knew she would have them soon. How much bigger could she get??"! One lady at my office takes the cake for inappropriate comments. She has fountains of them, all the time. She asked me if I was pregnant with this baby (#2) before I'd announced I was pregnant. One I recall - [at 7 months] "I bet you're ready to get your figure back."
Greggie Greggie 9 years
I don't think "You can tell it's a boy/girl by the way you're carrying" are all that bad. Just funny. The one I hated, especially this last time, was "I bet you're hoping for a girl" type comments. No, I'm wasn't hoping for anything but a healthy baby. Just because I have two boys doesn't mean I can't want another. The worst was when I answered "No, I don't care either way" and people would say "Right. Of course you want it to be a girl!" And of course once she was born, now we get "Now you can admit you wanted a girl all along." Makes me want to bang my head into a wall. I agree about the work comments, too. I always wanted the twins comment or "you look ready to pop!" comments. My dream was always to be HUGELY pregnant. I was bigger than ever with my daughter, but still not huge.
fsquaash fsquaash 9 years
And, can I add. . . No one says that stuff to my husband. In fact, when he returns to work, people don't even ask him if he misses the baby.
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