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Salma Hayek Doesn't Let Valentina Cry It Out

Salma Hayek Doesn't Let Valentina Cry It Out

Compassionate mama Salma Hayek, who made headlines when she breastfed a sick and starving baby, passed on a motherly tip this morning on the Rachel Ray Show. When asked about the best advice she was given in raising her 1-year-old daughter, Valentina Pinault, the actress passed on words of wisdom from her own mother. She said:

Everybody tells you what to do and everybody contradicts each other and it drives you mad. Put her in the bassinet or the cradle to sleep. Stick her in there, let her cry. Everybody was telling me this, but I wasn't doing it. She (my mother) said to me always put your baby to sleep because one day you are going to wish you could do that — that you could hold her in your arms and put her to sleep. You know, I put my baby to sleep every night and I love that moment even though sometimes it takes hours. But I do enjoy it very, very much.

Do you agree with Salma's attachment parenting approach rather than using the cry-it-out method?

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bsobos1123 bsobos1123 8 years
I think whatever works for your family is what you should do. I would never critize another parent. I happen to let my children cry it out (they actually only cry it out a few times and mostly just get comfy in their beds and go right to sleep). But that is my choice and what works for me. Every child is different and so is every parent. Life would be boring if we all did things the same way and there would be nothing to discuss on this site ;)
bchicgrl bchicgrl 8 years
I really think it depends on the kid. Some kids won't fall asleep to cuddling with their moms or dads. If I put down a baby to sleep and she/he would cry, I'd let her/him cry it out but if the crying continued for 10 or minutes then I would try to rock them to sleep. Sometimes there is nothing you can do but let them cry it out (especially in the teething stage). When I worked in the infant room of a daycare all of the babies had different sleeping habits.
MissSushi MissSushi 8 years
I said If it's not, and that for most it isn't, which is why so many parents are tired. I definitely agree that each is their own person with their own needs.
MissSushi MissSushi 8 years
The best thing I learned when raising my daughter was that i hated the strict routines, the crying it out, the people who want 6 week olds on a regular routine, sleeping through the night. If its not their natural inclination, and it isnt for most, then I dont like it. They're babies, love them, cuddle them, care for them. I agree with giving your child what they need, and that it can vary, but i wont ever agree with forcing them into strict deadlines. If I have trouble sleeping, or wake up frequently, my husband doesnt roll over in bed and force me to stay in it, crying. I get up, do a few things, and can generally get back to sleep before long. Why would you force an infant or baby to do it?
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
if you haven't had a baby you really cannot comment on this. there are emotions that go along with being a mom/dad that simply aren't there for "what ifs" or if you are a child care giver. i have 3 kids and my middle daughter needed to be held to go to sleep until she was over a year old. different kids need different things. before you are a mom you think "i'll be the perfect mom!" and you go over in your head all the things you will do that will make you a great mom. only AFTER you have children do you realize how arrogant that thought is. you won't know what your child needs until after they are born and you spend time getting to know them. i'm not talking about the basic needs of food and shelter, i'm talking about the emotional needs children have that allow them to feel secure and loved. every child is different and every mom i know is the expert on her child.
Lyngay Lyngay 8 years
I am with Salma 100%! I would never, ever let a little baby "cry it out". Think of it this way, lots of adults can't sleep without their partner in the bed or nearby. We also don't sleep through the night. Even if you think you do, you probably don't. We all wake up, briefly, and go right back to sleep. Well, a baby doesn't have the skills to go (back) to sleep w/o reassurance yet. I believe it's my job to help my daughter get to sleep in the most loving way possible. Of course, I respect that it doesn't work so ideally for everyone. Like a PP said, if you have several children, it can be almost impossible. But I still think that there are more loving ways than leaving a child alone to cry.
kimmieb124 kimmieb124 8 years
Like Salma, I am definitely taking an attachment parenting approach to my daughter, cuddling with her in bed every night. And also like Salma, I've received judgment for choosing to parent this way rather than having my daughter cry it out which I really don't understand. Every parent needs to do what feels right to them, and this is what feels right to me. I have no regrets about how I am choosing to parent my daughter. I work full time and when I am home I want to be with her as much as possible. I love every moment I have with her at night, and I know it will be way too soon that she no longer wants me around so much.
Ella-Pretty Ella-Pretty 8 years
I still cuddle my 2-yr old twins to sleep....they cuddle up next to us on the bed, we hug a bit, and then they go to sleep. Once they're asleep, we shift them onto their bedside cribs on either side of the bed. I hardly ever regret this choice - I know within the next 2 years, we'll be buying a house (we're in an apartment now) and we'll let them share a bedroom - but until then, I love the status quo. The best advice I ever had - was from my aunt - she had 3 daughters in close succession - so she had to be quite strict and practical with them - and have them in a schedule and everything. Then after a 12 year gap, she had a 4th child - and she had him in her bed and cuddled him like anything. They have a very close bond - and she wishes she could have done the same for her other 3 daughters - but the situation was different at that time. For me, my twins are enough for me - I don't know if I have the energy to be a good parent to ANY more than these 2, so I'm happy savouring every moment I have with them. I know it will only be too soon, that we'll be wishing for cuddles - and they'll be pushing us away!!! Of course, this is not practical for many parents - as if you have a large family, and had to try cuddle everyone to sleep - you may not get any yourself LOL! But it works for me...and with Salma as an older mom who may or may not have more kids - she is probably savouring every moment she has too!
NyckieRocks NyckieRocks 8 years
I cuddled my son to sleep until he was about 8 months or so. We would read a book, sing a little song and then cuddle. It worked out wonderfully for us. We found that if we let him cry it out, he would only get himself more and more worked up and it would take 4 times as long to get him to sleep, and he wouldn't sleep through the night. Now he is a great sleeper! He goes down to bed (and naps) very easily and he stays sleeping all night long. I think you just have to find what is right for your family, and even for each individual child. And I think it's great that she is proud of doing what works for her family. I've always been proud of our decisions in caring for our son, even when people would tell us we were "wrong."
meandtheo meandtheo 8 years
i love snuggling with my daughter...but i do not put her to sleep this way. we have a (fairly standard) bedtime routine that includes snuggles while reading books and after that she gets in her crib and says good-night. a perfect balance of both. there is the rare occasion when my daughter just won't go to sleep and on those nights she asks that i "rop" (rock) her. she will often fall asleep in my arms after 5 minutes of this, which i love and cherish but i would not want to HAVE to put her to sleep this way every night.
FrankiLee FrankiLee 8 years
I understand enjoying the cuddling part and everything -- but I think it really depends on the child. For the longest time I nursed her to sleep (that was the only way she would fall sleep!), and when I tried to break that habit, it took a lot of patience, and yes, crying it out. If I hadn't let her cry it out, I really doubt she would be sleeping through the night now. And she was still nursing to sleep at over 9 months, so I knew it was time to move on from that. It really differs from child to child!
Moms Moms 8 years
babysugar — I might need your tips for baby number 3! I've practiced what Salma preaches with my daughter and son and probably lost some sleep, but they grow up so fast.
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