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Screaming Through the Night

Why Didn't Anybody Tell Me: Screaming All Night

Sleep training is a rough sport where only the strong survive. Parents desperate for a tot to snooze through the night will sometimes allow their children to cry, wail, screech or whimper for minutes or hours on end. There's no denying the brutality of the sport — crocodile tears are not limited to the trainee; many have witnessed a few trickles down the cheeks of mom and pop, too.

While the bawling may be treacherous and heart wrenching, the aftershocks further drive a parent crazy. In theory, when baby finally caves and falls asleep, mommy and daddy can also get some much-needed rest. But, after enduring periods of howling, many folks still hear the yelps long after the child dozes off. To be certain my son has drifted off, my husband and I often have to document his shut eyes and slowly rising and falling chest. To seal the deal, we turn the monitor to the highest volume and finally doze off with pillows over our heads.

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Chouette4u Chouette4u 8 years
CaterpillarGirl, Do you have any studies or evidence that finds that crying it out is *not* harmful?
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
Chouette- Sorry but "two Harvard Medical School researchers" and thier findings isnt enough for me to say there is proof that it is dangerous and harmful. alerixon123- Notice it say "could" harm, Not "does" harm, again not enough research and the findings are inconclusive I am not saying that letting your child cry it out isnt going to make them upset, or cause them to be very emotional , but there is nothing conclusive out there to show me that the long term effects are harmful to the brain and "dangerous" thats scare tactics from the shrinks.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
babysugar, after she stopped, literally for months, i would startle awake at the smallest noise. my heart would skip a beat or 2 and i would think "it started again". what got her to stop was a drug called risperdal. one teeny-tiny dose, and that was the end of the night time screaming.
babysugar babysugar 8 years
Omg lickety split! Poor you! You're probably still hearing the crying ringing in your ears.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
lol, i'd take 30 minutes! our daughter with autism cried for 7 hours a night for 5 months :faint: she was the oldest, 4 at the time. the second daughter i tried gthe cry it out method of sleep and she puked all ofer herself 2 nights in a row. we did not repeat. daughter 3, i honestly don't remember. but, all of them go to sleep quite nicely now :)
Chouette4u Chouette4u 8 years
Here's more info on "cry it out" being unhealthy from a study from the Harvard School of Medicine: And FWIW, I did some CIO with my daughter. I think she about 8 months old and she had started to retrogress with her sleep. I did CIO for two nights and it only took her 10 minutes to get to sleep. I don't know what I would have done if it took her a lot longer than that. I don't think 30 minutes is that long for a baby that's at least 6 months, but I know some people IRL that have let their kiddos go on for hours. One woman I know actually had the neighbors call the police on her after she let her 5 month old daughter cry for two hours straight. My big issue with CIO is that in some circles, people seem to think that it's *good* for your baby to "sleep train" them. IMO, CIO should be some what of a last resort and limited thing when you're near the end of your rope as a parent.
babysugar babysugar 8 years
For the record, we only let the lil guy cry for 30 minutes and we STILL had the screaming locked in our heads. I knew he would cry like all babies do, but the aftermath I did not plan on.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
"There's just a point where letting babies cry it out is dangerous and unhealthy" there is no evidence to support that statment.
snarkypants snarkypants 8 years
what? babies cry all night? what a shocker!
Chouette4u Chouette4u 8 years
If "sleep training" makes you feel this uneasy as a parent, maybe you shouldn't do it. I'm not against letting older babies cry it out for short periods of time, but if you're letting it go on for hours, I can see why you would have a hard time sleeping afterward. There's just a point where letting babies cry it out is dangerous and unhealthy, and I think that's when our mommy instincts kick in and make us feel uncomfortable.
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