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Should Parents Intervene in Kids' Argument?

Mommy Dearest: Should Parents Intervene in Kids' Argument?

Mommy Dearest,

When is it time for parents to step in and handle a situation? We are raising our kids to speak up for themselves when they feel they have been wronged rather than crying to mommy and daddy all of the time. Since school went back in session, my 7-year-old son has come to us with a problem that he is having trouble handling. A friend of his appears to be taking things out of my son's backpack and then denying that he is the culprit. We know that he is the one taking them because we label everything with my son's initials. My boy has asked him to stop doing this, but the child denies taking the things. Should I speak to the kid myself or call his parents about the situation?

– Crossing the Line Mommy

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Crossing the Line Mommy,

Part of parenting is showing your child right from wrong. I agree with your stance on having kids handle their own problems, but since your son has addressed the issue several times to no avail, you might consider sending a note to their teacher since it's happening in the classroom. Teachers often have experience in dealing with these minor situations, which is better than having to involve the youngster's parents.

— Mommy Dearest

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vmruby vmruby 7 years
I had the exact same problem at school with one of my daughter's classmates and after having to replace the stolen items once I decided it was time to write a note to the teacher.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
I agree with Anon (5) ... this isn't a spat - it's theft.
cheersdarlin916 cheersdarlin916 7 years
Since it is happening at school then you should go to the school for help. First start with the teacher and then head up the ladder if you need more assistance.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 7 years
call the parents, stealing isnt just an everyday child thing its an indicator of something else.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
agree with the advice - and furthermore, this isn't just a schoolyard spat...this kid is stealing from your child, so i think you are well within your rights to say something i don't agree when parents call kids' parents to whine about little schoolyard scraps though...sometimes kids DO need to deal with it themselves, but in this situation you can say something
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