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Should Pregnant Women Celebrate Mother's Day?

Should Pregnant Women Celebrate Mother's Day?

I found out I was pregnant with my first child in June so I had her in my arms when I first celebrated Mother's Day.

But, some mamas-to-be expect all the hoopla, be it a brunch, a spa day or family get together and gifts before their wee one is welcomed into the world.

Does it make sense for women with impending babes to be celebrated?

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sweetnsour sweetnsour 9 years
Since being pregnant I have been hospitalized twice, on bedrest since 22 wks, and worried about every THING related to the baby, its health, and development. If that doesn't qualify me for Motherhood--not sure what does. I celebrated and had a GREAT time!
FrankiLee FrankiLee 9 years
I am a week away from my ninth month of my pregnancy, and I didn't expect anything really, besides a "Happy Mother's Day!" My boyfriend ended up buying me flowers, which was very sweet. I don't expect gifts and cards and all of that, but it was nice to feel acknowledged. I think you are still considered a mother when you are carrying your child, given that you are caring for him/her and treating your body right during the pregnancy. And my due date is actually June 15th, which is Father's Day this if the baby arrives on that day or not, I will be getting something for my much as I am a mother right now, he is a father!
ohjeeze ohjeeze 9 years
chancleta, I completely agree.
thisgirlzakillah thisgirlzakillah 9 years
most def. they are still nurturing their baby even while it's in the womb. which is why i sent my sister in law a happy mothers day wish, because in about 2 weeks i will be an auntie =)
insi insi 9 years
no. you are'n mother 'til baby is born.
chancleta chancleta 9 years
i don't like to count my chickens till they've hatched but hey it's cool for someone else i think the first mother's day when you're pregnant is special because you know it's your last mother's day not being a mom it's a beautiful treat to think "next mother's day and for each one that comes after that - i will be a mom"
ohjeeze ohjeeze 9 years
duck duck goose I don't agree. So if a woman had several miscarriages and was never able to successfully carry a pregnancy to term, is she still a mother just because long ago there used to be an embryo or fetus in her womb?
Nitrobezene Nitrobezene 9 years
my personal opinion, no
DesignRchic DesignRchic 9 years
ohjeeze, No double standard here. I plan on making something really cute for my husband from the baby.
anniekim anniekim 9 years
I'd say that the people in a pregnant woman's life shouldn't feel obligated to celebrate Mother's Day for her in an extravagant way. But if she wants to celebrate and loved ones are on board, why not?
cutecurls cutecurls 9 years
I'm also due in August (less than two weeks from my 3rd trimester) and I'm spending the day with my husband. Honestly, knowing he acknowledges our new roles as parents is enough for me. I feel very much a mother these days, my little one is kicking up a storm and my love for her/him is overwhelming. I've already picked up some cute "how to dad" guide books for him for Father's Day. I consider him a father already and it does go both ways.
ayuninur ayuninur 9 years
Yes — Mothering starts at conception.
september september 9 years
It's funny this came up. My husband and I hve had a running argument about whether I should celebrate Mother's Day this year. Our first baby is due about two weeks after Mother's Day, but I feel it doesn't count unless I have the baby in my arms. I think I'm mostly just scared to jinx myself since my own mother had two VERY LATE miscarriages. (I get nervous every time I look at the nursery which is nearly done now.) My husband says that I'm a mother since I'm holding a baby within me. We've decided to compromise by having him make me my favorite dessert as a gift. I wouldn't be shocked if there is a card tucked away somewhere too. On the other hand, I can't wait to get him a Father's Day gift.
lolalu lolalu 9 years
Yes, they should definitely celebrate. (And the picture for this story is too cute :))
Moms Moms 9 years
Great point duck duck goose!
peepshow peepshow 9 years
Today on ellen, the whole audience was expecting mothers! She gave away all sorts of stuff for Mother's Day. I caught the last 10 minutes, but apparently Jessica Alba was there. I gave my husband an xBox 360 2 years ago for Father's Day, before we even seriously talked about having kids! (I gave birth March 2008!)
mlmoreno47 mlmoreno47 9 years
Yes!!! I wouldn't expect a hoopla! (btw that totally reminds of the episode of Friends where it's Ross' birthday hoopla) but flowers card or small gift always makes a person smile! Why not?
Kimpossible Kimpossible 9 years
To me motherhood starts when you have the desire to be a Mom. I had a friend who struggled for yaers to conceive and then carry to term her first child, I always loved celebrating Mothers day with her, just because she didn't have any of her babies (at the time) with her here on Earth didn't make her any less of a Mother than I was with my children. She now does have a beautiful healthy 2.5 year old. I think if a pregnant woman want's to celebrate Mother's Day there is nothing wrong with that - it may be the only one they get to celebrate - you just never know.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
"Imagine the implication that the many women who have suffered miscarriages and were unable to carry their babies to a live and healthy delivery are not and never were *real* mothers, just because their little ones struggled and perished in the womb." Amen!! And I believe I've already answered the question of if equal treatment would be given to the father, ohjeeze. :) In my experience, it's pretty much the same with others - if mom celebrates Mother's Day during pregnancy, dad celebrates Father's Day. Assuming he wants to.
JennyJen2 JennyJen2 9 years
Yes- my husband and I did nice things for one another while I was pregnant.
ohjeeze ohjeeze 9 years
Yes lades, but are you going to do something nice for your husband once father's day arrives? If motherhood begins at conception when does fatherhood begin, or is it double standard?
DesignRchic DesignRchic 9 years
As a woman who's in her 7th month pregnant and one who also had a miscarriage prior, I so appreciate your words duck duck goose! Yes, I might not have had my sleepless nights of getting up and feeding, or have taken care of a kid who's sick, but I do consider myself a mother. I sing to my unborn son, read him stories and make sure I take all 6 vitamins a day to ensure that I'm taking good care of him. I don't necessarily expect a lot of hoopla on Sunday, but let me tell you tears came to my eyes when my mother sent me a Happy Soon-to Be-Mother's Day card this week. It meant a lot to me.
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