Rachel, a mom of newborn twins, wonders if she should keep her babies together when they sleep or give them separate spaces. As it turns out, this is a common question among parents of newborn twins, and even among parents whose children are close in age. Will they feel safer sleeping together? Or will they disrupt one another's sleep?
Here, culled from discussions on Circle of Moms, is a look at what to consider when figuring out the optimal sleeping arrangement for your newborn twins.
Moms of twins say the biggest consideration should be your babies' dispositions and sleep habits. Although many moms start out with their twins in the same crib, this seems to work well only for babies who "really like to sleep," as a Circle of Moms member named Laura points out. More often, twins are quite different in their sleep patterns and rhythms, so one baby's sleep is disrupted by the other.
India, who refers to her twins in this context as "Fussybutt A" and "Fussybutt B" shares that at varying times during their first year, both of her twins had difficulty napping. Just as one would get cozy the other would wake him up. Keeping them together proved to be a logistical nightmare. Once they were separated, they both slept better — as did mom!
For many, twins' genders also figure into this equation. Most Circle of Moms members who have weighed in on this issue plan to eventually separate opposite-gender twins. And, as Jessi G. shares, if you're going to separate them, you should do so early so that it's not a big adjustment for them later. But several moms, including Mallorie M. and Laura, are fine with their boy/girl twins sleeping together.
For Mallorie, the end point to this is when her twins reach school-age. For Laura, the end point is up to her kids. At the moment, her boy-girl twins wake when she separates them. She originally intended to put them in their own rooms, worrying that keeping them in one crib would cause them to rouse or even injure one another, but as it turns out, they love sleeping together and protest when they can't. She plans to let them sleep together for as long as it makes sense.
Often, as a member named Patricia points out, there simply isn't enough space in your home to separate twins. Her boy-girl twins have four teenage siblings, so keeping them together is her only option at the moment. Karen's in the same boat, and unlike Laura, her twins tend to wake one another up. She just lets them do their own thing and tries not to control the action. They sleep and cry at different times, but she reports that everyone eventually got used to this pattern and no one seemed worse for wear.
Lindsay C. is another mom who doesn't have enough space to give her twins separate rooms, and furthermore, her babies insisted on sleeping together, protesting loudly when they were separated. The problem is that they also kept each other awake half the night. This mom's solution? She put two small beds in the same room next to each other, and her babies were able to see each other, but not touch. This did the trick. They were reassured by one another's presence, but not pulling each others' hair out! Her story shows that it is possible to keep twins with different sleep patterns in the same room.
The moral of the story? Experiment. You may have an idea about what you prefer and why, but the real test is whether or not it works.
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